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When pretty wife turns 'fat and ugly'

6 years ago | 247763 Views
WHEN you met your wife, she was a sex goddess, with a beautiful body to die for. Two years and a baby down the line, she has put on a considerable amount of weight, has a big tummy and rolls of fat.

According to Asiphe Ndlela, a psychologist, when this happens most men do not find their women attractive any longer.

"They either start looking for another woman or stop any affection with them. Some even go to the extent of telling their women that they are no longer attractive or are a turn-off."

Ndlela said most men did not know this could have grave psychological effects on women.

She said there was nothing more damaging to a woman's ego as hearing that her body is too flawed to be sexually appealing, particularly if the words are coming out of her husband or partner's mouth.

She said research on marriage problems by psychologist Wendy Langford revealed that many women based too much of their personal happiness on the approval and love of their husbands.

"Being able to be there for your partner by listening to her and finding out what causes her to eat, why she is unmotivated, is helpful. When she realises she doesn't want to let you and herself down she may find the motivation needed to lose weight. Being open to what she has to say and being helpful will likely get her to stay focused."

Margot Howard-Brown, a weight specialist, said most women gained weight immediately after giving birth and it took some time for a new mother to change theeating habits she adopted during her nine months of pregnancy and months of breastfeeding.

"Many women gain weight when they're pregnant in that first year after the baby, especially a first time mother. It is tiring and stressful. When men judge them for the way they look, they get depressed.

"The more you talk about her weight and lack of fitness, the more likely she is to add to her well of anger and resentment."

She said some men made the mistake of comparing their partners with a celebrity who loses all the baby weight in a few weeks.

She said most of these celebrities had support, including a personal trainer.

Howard-Brown said eating was tied into your feelings, and often food substituted for love.

"A woman may eat to nurture herself. If she is stressed and tired from sleepless nights of mothering a baby and manning the household for instance, she might 'reward' herself with a chocolate or piece of meat just for getting a lift.

"Being with an emotionally unavailable man often causes women to overeat or develop physical ailments."

She said if you're turned off by an overweight partner, the fix is in confronting the emotional issues behind the weight issue.

Zuko Mathyila, a male activist in Cape Town, defended men who were unsettled by their women's sudden weight gain. He said most men found it extremely difficult to deal with change.

He said it was generally hard and somewhat upsetting for men to deal with the fact that their sexual partner had become fat.

"Studies show that very few men like change.

"It is a well-known fact the world over; traditionally society has conditioned men towards routine. It is perfectly natural for them to feel this way.

"Sometimes that type of change from their chosen life partners was not expected."

He said most men married a woman because they found her attractive, intelligent and shared the same values.

Moreover, men liked attractive women. Fat was not attractive. He said men expected their wives would gain a reasonable amount of weight [but not too much].

"It is inevitable for them to be disappointed and angry."

He added that when women were in a comfortable relationship, they often stopped taking care of themselves.

"That's why most men then end up checking out other women and seeking new pastures."

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This article was done by Zenoyise Madikwa for the Sowetan
250 Malema
Tags: Pretty,Wife,Ugly

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Anonymous user 6 years
"most men" are obviously selfish dicks.
Anonymous user 5 years
just get back on comparing the wives with celebrities and that you said that its only because of the personal trainers. thats like the worst excuse EVER. you can get a gym membership with a personal trainer and she can move her ass there for 80 bucks a month that I can pay, without excuses.
Anonymous user 5 years
Reading this article, it seems women get upset over the truth? If someone is fat and you tell them, is that a bad thing or simply telling them the truth?
Anonymous user 5 years
My husband tells me my belly is just "battle scars" from giving him three beautiful children. He also says I'm perfect, and that's at 70 lbs more than when we met! so he is obviously not "most men". and for those who would say "He's just telling you that" I disagree because he still humps my leg like a dog whenever he can! :) What this article fails to address is that men also gain weight after marriage and kids. I'm sorry, but if a husband tells his wife he doesn't find her sexually attractive anymore yet he's sitting there with a gut, he's kind of a hypocrite!
Anonymous user 5 years
F**k all you dickhead men out there. Do u have any idea what having children does to your body? Not to mention that women are usually still main caregivers of the children,responsible for most house duties & errands , as well as being expected to hold down jobs , all while maintaining the way we looked when we first met our partners which is usually years ago & when we were childless. If a man wants his partner to maintain thier attractiveness & be physically fit to a certain degree then I think these men should be held to the same standards & that includes taking care of the children, house , errands , & working thier job. Yes there are some men out there that do these things but in the year 2013 it is still nowhere near equal. If you are seriously that shallow that you can't find the woman you wanted to spend your life with & who gave you your beautiful children "attractive" anymore then maybe she's not the one with the problem.
Anonymous user 5 years
I feel that some men can be truly ungrateful to the women who birthed their children.
Anonymous user 5 years
Quote: "Research on marriage problems by psychologist Wendy Langford revealed that many women based too much of their personal happiness on the approval and love of their husbands" This is a stupid and idiotic thing to say, especially from a psychologist. And men do the same you idiot, its called, marriage, it requires trust and commitment so obviously there is going to be a level of dependancy. Phew! these psychologists are a bunch of fruitcakes. Get yer head out of your textbook and into reality.
Anonymous user 4 years
If it is alright for a man to criticise his wife for gaining weight & compare her to a celebrity then it's alright for her to criticise him for being a poor provider for his family & compare his income to those same celebrities who can afford personal trainers, personal chefs, nannies, housekeepers, personal assistants & all the rest! If he can dish it out he needs to be able to take the same back!
Anonymous user 4 years
Women are lazy fat f**ks. They look smoking hot, thin, hair did nails did, then get married have a baby or 2 and become ugly fat useless bitches that don't even try anymore because they got what they wanted, a baby. It's there own fault.
Anonymous user 4 years
The biggest support that celebrity women have to get thin after having a baby is the brutal eye of the media.
Anonymous user 4 years
I would gladly "move in" and take her over "as is weight" and she cann just let him go on find another thin woman. There are guys ready to take that woman who have none and want one to love. Its her choice to ditch one and go for another , I say
Anonymous user 4 years
Just not fair. Why so many beautiful women let there self go and lose the once beautiful figure to be grossly overweight.. Yes, make the man feel guilty for saying anything about her weight. Instead of taking pride in their body, Exercise and eating in moderation lead to a longer healthier life. being lazy eating everything you want all the time and being to lazy to exercise is being a slob. this I don't care love me as I am attitude is a marriage killer. Fat women don't care about their mans feeling. Why stay with them if they disrespect you by over eating.and become obese.
Anonymous user 4 years
I don't enjoy being overweight. But I think men are juvenille in their expectations. Before kids I had time for myself, meaning for the gym, my hair nails skin, and not to mention sleep. These days I just am pulled in all directions. I'm happy at the end of the day, simply because it's the 'end of the day', and I can finally rest from hassling all day. If I had not gotton married or had kids I would be smoking hot and alot more healthier. But that train is gone.
Anonymous user 4 years
I'm one of those guys that help around the house, help with kids and even try to encourage my wife go take care of herself but she subconsciously decides not to do so. Now, I'm in a little better shape than she is but I believe there is some truth that if I got a real great shape, she could also be motivated to as well or worse get really jealous to then send her into more of a downward spiral. Basically, you either have the mental fortitude to get in shape or not. It's not a bad thing. I equate it to sports...either you have it or you don't.
Anonymous user 4 years
I was raised by a very liberated mom and have always been very fair and open and equal in my relationships with women. I fell in love with and married my wife because she was everything I wanted in a partner and the best friend and most fun conversationalist I could dream of. She was also very cute and sexy at 5'6" and 120 lbs. We have always had a lot of fun and meaningful experiences together. I love her as much as I ever have, but she has always had a weight problem, even before we met, she had gained and lost 40 - 50 pounds. When we were dating she lost a lot of weight and we talked openly about it. She knew I was attracted to fit and slender women and she remained fit and slender for several years until after we married in our 30s. She slowly began to gain weight. We talked about it, but it didn't help. Then after we had 3 kids in 5 years, she couldn't lose the weight, and has since ballooned up to surpass my weight. I'm 6'2" and about 210 and have kept in shape and have a flat stomach and I work out enough to stay healthy. I have always been pretty fit, but the older I get the more I need to diet and work out to stay trim and fit. I was an athlete most of my life and she was a dancer and stage entertainer, so we know the value of staying fit. As she has continued to gain weight these last 20 years, I've struggled with remaining sexually attracted to her. My tastes haven't changed, we have pictures of each other around the house and she isn't recognizable at over 120 pounds of excess weight. I tried to approach the subject from the emotional aspects that might be triggering the over eating and weight gain, but she grew angry and said she didn't want to talk about it. We are a great couple from every other measure except her weight and our lack of a sex life. At one point she told me she never wanted to hear me comment or ask about her weight problem. She knows I am unhappy with her weight but refuses to do anything about it. I resent this and am extremely frustrated and it hurts me that she won't try to do anything about it. She knows she is obese and that it is unhealthy, but just can't break her bad habits. She is a wonderful woman in every other way and I am a man of my word and I will stick by her. She is still my best friend and partner for life, but man, I sure miss the girl I married, too.
Anonymous user 4 years
It is generally accepted that our culture's fixation on thin and slender women and why all fashion models look like young trim 16-24 year olds is because of biological factors. Women are more fertile and able to be impregnated and carry children to a healthy birth at these younger ages and that most men are attracted to women of this age or this physical condition because it is designed into men's basic reproductive urges because it simply directs them to the best target females for propagating the species. In purely biological terms, men are looking for reproductively fit women to produce healthy offspring that carry their genes. Women want men with good genes to pass on to their babies and a caring mate who will protect and feed the family. The cute trim little hotties that attracted the boys in high school and college continue to be attractive to men as they age because that is how men are hard-wired on their most basic reproductive level. Most men are biologically normal, which does not make them "dicks." If women want to remain sexually attractive to their mates, or to any men in general, they should do their best to remain as healthy looking as possible. Fit is sexy, even with older men and women. Then there are all the ego and cultural driven attitudes which generally point in the same direction. Men, as "dicks," do want to be envied and not embarrassed by the woman they accompany in public. Men, as "dicks" will ogle other women if their mate is unattractive. Heck, they will lust after other women, because they are hard-wired biologically to spread their seed anywhere the planting looks good. And no, it's not fair, but neither men nor women can help how we are designed. We just need to make the best of it. You want to be sexy? Be fit.
Anonymous user 4 years
No kids have been given and has gained over 150 lbs since we've been married. Where is the excuse?
Anonymous user 4 years
What the hell ever. I love my wife but after 2 kids (love my boys) my wife went from 140lbs to 220lbs and she's 5'5". Every time I saw her it made me angry because I constantly supported her and tried to get her to eat healthy while pregnant. Most women wont give a short fat guy a chance because they see them as unhealthy+ other things I wont mention but it's ok for women to turn fat because we need to think about their feelings. I now have to work harder to help my wife lose weight and I will because I LOVE HER! The problem is there is too much support out there telling women that it's ok to stay fat and unhealthy because they are emotionally delicate... I call FOUL!
Anonymous user 4 years
Here's a thought? Maybe both men AND women in relationships should give a damn about trying to be attractive to their partner out of simple respect and consideration...as opposed to blaming their own weight gain on their partner. If you are getting fat, you KNOW it. Your clothes stop fitting and you are eating more. Eat less. Just do it, regardless of how hard it is. Have some self control and just skip lunch once in a while and it will go away, and maybe your relationship won't be ruined.
Anonymous user 4 years
The person that said most men are selfish dicks is obviously a self centre witch it's completely selfish to change who you are and expect others to accept you as you were !
Anonymous user 4 years
my wife was a hottie virgin just turning 18 - we were married 5 years - I was a construction worker busting my ass getting her through college - she started to treating me like an idiot - she got us into debt and was too lazy to get a real job to help get us out - we had a falling out - she played chicken and basically dared me to divorce her - I didn't want to - she got all of her little college friends to gang up on me - had a party in our apartment - brought her little college friends to laugh at me at the divorce court - and when the judge ask me if I wanted a divorce - she turn around and looked at me shaking her head as to say no - and when she realized that it wasn't going to do any good she beat me to the draw and said that she wanted the divorce so that it would show that it was her decision on the court records - I picked up the pieces and got my act together getting two college degrees - I've always been into working out and staying in shape - I'm slim, trim, and fit - awhile back I was wonder what she was up to - and found that she hooked up with a sugar daddy - I couldn't believe how fat she got - the girl use to have a body that would knock you out and she was good in bed - when I saw how fat she got - oh my GOD - I was so glad that things worked out the way they did - I've had many girlfriends after her - but I still had a place in my heart for her - don't know why - but after seeing what I saw - that feeling is gone - thank God ;) finally ;)
Anonymous user 4 years
my wife is slim & sexy before & now she is fat, and i am no longer attracted to her. We dont have any child yet, been married for 7 years. doctor said she should loose some weight for us to have children.... when she got fat, she got lazy, and etc. etc.... i've been working my ass off so i can give her and her family what they need.... and i'am tired of this shit. I just want to tell those wives out there that if you really love your husband whos giving you what you need...please dont get fat.
Anonymous user 4 years
What a stupid article.
Anonymous user 4 years
Interesting article and interesting responses. The article does seem to focus on the issue of childbirth and the consequences of that phase in most women's lives. I acknowledge it must be extremely difficult to return to a svelte body after such an event however, I feel there are far too many women (and men) who, once in a comfortable relationship don't feel the need to be vigilant about weight gain and allow themselves to become (perhaps) unattractive to their partners. The access to easy (lazy?) food has been a huge contributor to the developed worlds obesity problem, but in the end we are in most circumstances, responsible for weight gain.
Anonymous user 4 years
It angers me that no one can understand what its like to have a spouse that is overweight while you yourself are fit. My situation is pretty simple. I love my wife. She is a great mother and person. I would never ever cheat on my wife or divorce her because of her weight gain but you can expect me to want to have sex with someone I'm not physically attracted to. Why does everyone think that love should equal sexual/physical attraction? The simple fact that I'm willing to remain in a sexless marriage with someone I'm not attracted shows “TRUE LOVE” . Can anyone give advice on what to do? I keep losing weight as she keeps gaining. I’m less and less attracted to her daily . I’m afraid she might eventually leave me because I’m not attracted to her. This sucks!!!
Anonymous user 4 years
Whoever said men are selfish ducks is probably a fat woman. Blaming everyone but herself. Why would you want to be OK with being fat anyways? I've fluctuated in weight for a while now and I must say being in shape feels so much better mentally, emotionally and physically. Makes everything easier and provides way more comfort than a damn cheeseburger would. So quit hating you fatasses. It's your damn fault you're fat.
Anonymous user 4 years
I gave birth to my beautiful girl2 months ago. My husband started complaining about my wait after one month. He always compares me with other women who gave birth and list weight. I told him that it really hurts. He says that I am hormonal and don't get the joke. The funny thing is that he is overweight himself. ...
Anonymous user 4 years
I don't know were this man get the ideas about being a good husband or a father As it is, some woman put themself lost and family first. I'm a mother Of three its hard to put yourself first. If man just helped out it would not be so hard.
Anonymous user 4 years
I've been married for less than a year. My wife was so beautiful and all I could ever ask for. Now she is 40 lbs over weight and lazy. She doesn't really care about her weight and when I try to get her to go for a walk or suggest something healthy she just has a excuse not to do or try it. It's hard to deal with the weight. I love her and accept her as she is, but I'm concern with the negative health implications of her added weight. She says she's happy and all is perfect, but something doesn't jive. I'm starting to be turned off by her and that sucks to say. She's a great person, but her manners have gone and she has become a fat slob of a person. I'm not selfish, I do what I can to show her and let her know I love her. I'm also faithful to her. I think maybe she's not as happy as she says, but she doesn't talk about emotions and I just think that she may have given up on life for whatever reason. I worry about her, but I'm in good shape and fit. I didn't fall in love with of marry that same woman I now have as a wife. So I think it maybe normal to withdraw for a relationship if your spouse doesn't take to the warming signs and expect you to stick around. To death to you part, but not a slow suicide for one to watch. She is not ugly, but a beautiful person and I'm not shallow, just real. Life is short...
Anonymous user 4 years
But it is ok when the husband gains weight?
Anonymous user 4 years
Don't marry her for her looks, then you won't be disappointed when she loses them.
Anonymous user 4 years
Fat is simply just not attractive. My wife is getting fat and I miss the woman she used to be. To be honest I would rather watch TV then look at her when she comes to bed. I still love her but its just fat chicks have always turned me off. When I see her eat more then me or gobble ice cream it just makes me sad.
Anonymous user 4 years
My sister had a kid, and went to the gym and lost her weight as did my mother. My wife is pushing close to my weight and I am a fit taller gut. She has not been pregnant but gained a lot due to watching desperate housewives over doing something. I don't want to hear this horsesh*t guys are evil cause their lazy wife is getting fat. I am dealing with multiple sports injuries and clearly am still unstoppable. This whole pregnant excuse is lame. Do yoga, walk, and appreciate your body as the only actual Temple for your soul. Respect your body as it Carries your life, respect your marriage as it is your life. If I get too skinny, I change my workout routine and bulk up. I hate curl monkeys, but will do useless curls to make my wife happy for having 'arms.' I prefer squats and snatches, but hey. I have not 'settled' my body post marriage and am pissed at my wife for sitting on the couch with her gut protruding out like a tire. Not fair. I care=I lift. She doesn't, she gets a tire and gets pissed at me when I would rather play ps instead of being intimate with a person who cannot respect my needs or her body/health.
Anonymous user 4 years
Women just stop with the bulls**t. I had a baby less than a year ago and I gained weight like all women do. Then I just reduced my calories to a reasonable level post baby and guess what? The weight came off. It's not fair to become a lazy blob because you are a mom. You have an obligation to your partner to be attractive and healthy but more importantly, no one wants a fat mom. Weight loss is 90% diet. Stop eating so damn much and stop the excuses. These men aren't jerks, they're just more honest than your husband.
Anonymous user 4 years
Women tighten up. We want to see that thigh gap
Anonymous user 4 years
I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years now. I love her more today that I did when we first met. We both have grown kids and she is fixed and can't have any more. About 3 years ago, for some reason, she just started eating like she was on the brink of starvation. I could literally see the weight gain on her growing every day. Before I knew it, she had amassed 60 pounds of disgusting blubber in the space of 3 months and has now kept it on for over 3 years. She refuses to go to the gym and any attempt at dieting goes by the wayside in the matter of days. I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and am in excellent shape. I keep myself this way by watching what I am eating at all times and try to suggest to her that she shouldn't eat chocolate or pizza or bagels slathered in peanut butter and jelly 10 minutes before she goes to bed. Now she has gained even MORE weight and outweighs me by at least 20 pounds. I am 6'1" and weigh 204 and am heavily muscled. She is 5'6" and, like I said, at LEAST 225. She is continually complaining about her back hurting, legs hurting, shoulders hurting, stomach hurting, etc. etc., but makes ZERO effort to try to get into shape. I am completely disgusted by the "Roseanne" that now lives with me. Her disposition has changed and she is combative and unwilling to make any change. I am at my wits end literally. I love her so much, but I can't bear to look at her morbidly obese, nasty fat rolls that make up her once hot as hell body. Just tonight, when I was rousing her off the couch to go to bed, she immediately headed for the kitchen to get some chocolate candy before walking into the bedroom to go to sleep! When I said "Honey, you don't need to do that right before bed.", she screamed at me and told me to "Get the hell away from me!" and threw the bag of candy across the counter and then stalked off saying that she "Doesn't need me to control what she does." What kind of sh*t is that?!?!? I have stood by her all these years and I have never cheated on her and will never do that, but this is some bullsh*t I am having to put up with. She was model material when we met and stayed like that for the first 4 years. Now, I don't even recognize the blimp that's in our home. I want my girlfriend back so badly, and I am so frustrated and angry that she has completely let herself go to the point of, when seen from behind, she looks like a linebacker. Our sex live is nonexistent, and I a so totally turned off by her fatness that I don't even have any desire to have sex with her. I don't want to live my life without her because I love her and want to be with her forever. I know the person I fell in love with is still in there, but since this giant weight gain, she has transformed into a hideous blob and does NOTHING to lose it. Can someone please suggest how I can get her to put down the damn spoon and show some self control and get her to lose this terrible flab? This is ruining our relationship more each day.
Anonymous user 4 years
I can relate to all of these men except that I am a woman who is seven months postpartum with my second child. I am very lucky that my genes have allowed me to bounce back fairly easily although not perfect like before. But I work so hard every day because I want to get there for my own self confidence. My fiancé is quite overweight and has gained more during my pregnancy than I did. I'm not attracted to him sexually right now but I do love him and I am trying to encourage him to lose weight not just for me but for his health and wellness too. He was very fit two years ago and says he wants to get there again. But actions speak louder than words and he is simply not as motivated to live a healthy lifestyle as I am. It sucks. I don't blame these men because they had an expectation of the woman they married would not change drastically physically speaking. Yes, pregnancy takes it's toll on the body but gaining excess weight and never taking the time to get rid of it is just lazy , I look after two kids all day and I still work out 5-6 times a week. It's called daycare and many gyms have it, 1 hour to myself each day and a better mom for it. Anyways my point is it doesn't matter what side of the coin you are on, if you have a partner that doesn't value fitness and a healthy lifestyle the way you do it's just not good for the relationship and especially the sex life.
Anonymous user 4 years
Lol the women dont wanna lose weight they better give it up more
Anonymous user 4 years
Personally I don't think there is any excuse for a man or woman to be fat. I've given birth to 3 kids and managed to take all of the weight off. My husband is atleast 50 pounds overweight and it's disgusting and I know he is not ok with it because when he gets dressed, he hides his big huge belly behind his towel. I will not have sex with him until he loses weight, the last time I tried; I felt like I was being crushed. When I watch him eat and do nothing but rotate to each and every couch/chair in the family room; it makes me sick.
Anonymous user 4 years
I totally disagree. You work hard to impress your partner at the start. So why drop the ball after having kids??? Get off your lazy arse and work it into shape.
Anonymous user 4 years
I often think of david patreus and his wife. She looked more like his mother. Had she put more effort into her appearance he wouldnt have been a naughty boy
Anonymous user 4 years
People usually start gaining weight as a result of a chemical imbalance, usually having to do with serotonin. That's why they crave carbs and sugar. Overweight people are not unhappy b/c they are overweight, per se; they are overweight b/c they are unhappy. I am someone who struggles with this. That is why I refuse to be in a relationship. I know I cannot "keep it tight" for a man on a regular basis.
Anonymous user 4 years
to all these cows who keep calling men dickheads: like it or not, it's the reality of the situation so what are you going to do about it? Calling men dicks and remaining a fat cow is not going to make them attracted to you. Your bitterness is more likely to make them cheat. we could call you dicks too. We married a hot young skinny chick who pops out a kid and turns into a bad ugly bitter cow. Of course guys look elsewhere. Its bad enough to be fat. But at least be nice and fat not a fat bit h.
Anonymous user 3 years
Men should support and respect their wives for who they are, not act like selfish pricks.
Anonymous user 3 years
Fat women are UNATTRACTIVE and hate hearing the truth. Get off your fat arses and lose wight or expect you husbands/partners to look elsewhere. Blaming your weight after years of having kids is f**king bullsh*t and a cop out. Women think they can be as fat as they like and that men should just put up with it. F**k right off. I waited 7 years with a fat partner who just didnt two f**ks about how her obesity was ruining how I felt about her and turned me off completely. Guys, if you are with a fat disgusting women DITCH the elephant, she will NEVER change.
Anonymous user 3 years
1) I married you for who you are, not Who you will change into. if you change the rules, you change the game giving me the right to forfeit.
Anonymous user 3 years
If the man is the kids father and he acts that way after she had kids with him then that's one thing and he should be a bit kinder to her and for health reasons work with her on loosing the weight. On the other hand if she's gained weight having another mans kids and I'm expected to keep my mouth shut regarding a negative I have to put up with from which another man gained something and I'm expected to pay the price? I'm no fool nor do I want to be a part of that. Thanks but no thanks. Always remember that if they aren't your kids that there are lots of women out there that don't have those encumberments. I have nothing against someone's kids but my choice is to put my resources to furthering my genes/dna not another mans dna /genes. Lots of women don't want a man that already has kids for the same reasons. Women always say you go girl. Notice that as I said upfront if its his kids he shouldn't treat her so negatively. However, when she already has kids it is my choice not to get involved. Its a choice and to expect me to be in a situation that I don't want to is a lack of regard for me any my feelings. What is it women say? Oh yeah expecting a woman to do something that she doesn't want to and using guilt or shame to induce her to do that is abuse. So isn't it abuse to try to guilt or shame men to do something that benefits women with kids that they really don't want to? Just a thought.
Anonymous user 3 years
My wife didn't gain much weight from her first pregnancy. In fact after our baby girl was born she went on I diet and she became slimmer then She had been in years so I was really happy about that. For some reason though woman always like to settle in once they feel averything is fine and she started eatong and snacking more then ever. In a few months time she got from slim and sexy to (and I'm sorry to say this) fat then aver before. I'm really not atrracted to her anymore, It's been 3 years and the last 2 we didn't have sex once because I just don't want to. I've tried to talk to her avout it but she just gets angry and doesn't want to do anything about it. I stopped showing any kind of affection at least for a year now, I'm sure she knows why and she knows damn well that I'd like her to loose some weight but she just doesn't care. I'm starting to feel depressed because of it, it's that bad. All I want is to feel physically attracted to my own wife instead of feeling embarred to be seen with her in public. This might sound selfish but i'm not the one letting myself go. I'm watching my diet and exercising 3 to 5 times a week to stay in shape. It's always the same with woman, they take care to look slim and sexy untill they get what they want and then they stop caring and turn fat and ugly. I'm really out of ideas.
Anonymous user 3 years
There is absolutely no reason why a wife should be a bloated fat ass after years from giving birth. It's a piss poor excuse and we are sick of hearing it. So what if you don't have a trainer. You don't need one to lose weight. It's called getting off your ass and MOVING. Claiming your fat because of childbirth is a bullsh*t piss poor excuse. Especially when the kids are TEENAGERS.
Anonymous user 3 years
I found that as my wife put on pounds, became more lazy and accepted mediocre. I became less attracted in every way. Im by nature motivated and capable of creating change. It is now apparent she had phycological issues which oppose any outside push for change for better or worse. I have placed every opportunity infront of her for her to get her life on track. I dont yell and have tried on several occassions to motivate her but said decisions are never preformed. What I am least attracted about is she is not a companion in this lifes endevours. Not someone I can depend on to pick up the slack. I am not attracted to feeling alienated. Long story short, we have a child and my reslove in life has began to deminish. I am alone in this and the responsibilities are mine. Shes no more then a bad babysitter these days.
Anonymous user 3 years
The comments and their ratings simply prove that many women WANT to be fat and they DEFY anyone to challenge them on it. So if you're a guy and your wife gains 70 lbs, you had BETTER just keep your mouth shut, but even that is not enough... You somehow have to still magically be able to get it up. Otherwise YOU'RE the ahole. And the SAME GOES FOR FAT MEN. Any guy who thinks his fit wife should want to ride a giant whale should NOT be surprised when she bangs the trainer. The REALITY is that most people, men AND women, who initially marry someone that is a reasonable weight, are NOT *physically attracted* to someone morbidly obese. For a guy? if the PHYSICAL attraction isnt there its PRETTY tough to fake
Anonymous user 3 years
To all of the hyper defensive commenters... NO ONE Is saying women shouldnt age, must stay perfect, etc. So cut the shit. There is a DAMN BIG difference between "not looking like you're 20" and gaining 100 lbs when you're 5'0" ok? And the EXCUSE is ALWAYS kids. More and more guys help more and more at home, WHILE working AND doing housework. Yet the obesity epidemic continues. HALF the guys I know have wives that FAR outweigh them. Some of those wives work, some have NANNIES AND HOUSEKEEPERS! Yet ALL of them I am sure have some bullsh*t excuse why it is somehow the HUSBANDS fault that THEY dont want to watch their weight. And therapists support this crap with "what you YOU doing to cause HER to feel so bad she gets fat???" Are women babies now that everything that happens to them is the fault of some external source? How about being the "strong fierce woman" that everyone brags about being and OWNING YOUR OWN BULLSHIT?
Anonymous user 3 years
I don't care how young and attractive she was when you married her. Women grow older and get fat. This is why I'm in my 30s and still a virgin. All the women I cared for in my early 20s eventually gained weight, and I grew to be happy that it didn't work out between us and that we didn't have kids. Better to die an 80 year old virgin than risk making a commitment to sleep with a fatty for the rest of my life. When your body gets poopy, my penis gets droopy. What's even worse than dealing with the unattractive appearance is that, after she gets ugly you no longer get to have fun sex with your wife as a way of escaping all her motor mouth nagging. So in addition to putting up with her child like whining and fault finding, I have to put up with her ugly fatty appearance? It was doable when I actually wanted to see her naked. With all that fat everything is gross. No, thanks. I'll stay single, clean up my messes when I feel like it, and play video games to de-stress from work.
Anonymous user 3 years
I posted to here 3 months ago about my hot girlfriend of 7 years that had just completely let herself go and how I found it repulsive and disgusting to look at all the fat she has gained. Well, I finally told her that I loved her inside and was grossed out by the giant weight gain, then posted that to another site to get some feedback. Well, you would have thought I was the meanest, most hatful, disgusting, parasitic, dickheaded asshole that ever walked the earth. To make matters worse, she got into my phone, snooped my conversations with my only true friend, found the website, hacked my account, and then proceeded to tell the world what an insensitive, pathetic excuse for a man I am. I was venting. Never called her that stuff ever. Never did anything I said in there ever utter out of my mouth to her. I WAS VENTING!! I was furious she gained all that weight and so naturally, I pulled away from intimacy. Guess what now? Four days ago she dumped me after me putting up with almost 4 years of her being a bloated, moomoo wearing fatass, SHE DUMPS ME?!?!?! You know what I have to say? FUCK YOU, ALL YOU LAZY, FAT COW ASS BITCHES WHO THINK THAT WE ARE JUST SUPPOSED TO PUT UP WITH YOUR GIANT WEIGHT GAIN AND NOT SAY A FUCKING WORD ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!! How dare you women suck us in and then, because you get comfortable in your relationship, you just think you can pack on 60 pounds of blubber and NOT expects us to be disgusted and repulsed by what you have, and continue to do! You have stolen 4 years of my life have totally devastated me and shattered my heart and I was faithful and true to you. Didn't you get the clue that you were unattractive to me when we have only had sex 3 times this year? Who wants to have sex with a motherf**king BLIMP!!!! DAAAAÀAAAMMMMMMMMMNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anonymous user 3 years
I just wanted her to lose some weight, not dump me after 7 years, for the love of God!
Anonymous user 3 years
I Am in this situation And I'm glad to know I am not alone
Anonymous user 3 years
Women need to have enough respect for their guy too stay in shape. The truth is 97 percent (estimated) of men want a girl /woman who is at least fit. Ive been in a relationship for 6 years and watched as my girlfriend gained so much weight she now has 20 pounds on me. I tried a dozen times over past 3 years to get her active and eating healthy. I take care of myself and she just gets fat I'm sick of it and her excuses so I'm breaking up with her.
Anonymous user 3 years
bitch gatta loose some weight, other wise niga fanna go look for fine looking bitches. stop complaining and loose weight if you really want yo niga to be faithful shit
Anonymous user 3 years
Well said. Was that supposed to be some form of English?
Anonymous user 3 years
Having children is not an excuse to be fat. Fat = unhealthy regardless of weather you have children or not. I am a woman and I think it is gross the way a lot of women let themselves go. I think the problem is a lot of these women are lucky in that they always had high metabolisms and therefore never really worked out seriously, however when they had children it caught up with them.. I am married and there is no way I am going to turn into a fat cow and expect my husand to stil love me. I hit the gym 4 times a week. You lazy fat cows need to his the gym. As soon as I feel like I am getting lazy I hit the gym and cut back on refined carbs. I am not attracted to fat guys so I don't expect my husband to love me being fat. FAT = I eat too damn much and am lazy. My mother had 3 children and was never fat. And no she is not a skinny anorexic model. She just did't overeat. Hit the gym people and stop whining. Marriage is two way. You have to make an effort to look good too.
Anonymous user 3 years
A lot of you people on here are not keeping it real with your wives. If you cannot communicate openly with your wife you don't have a marriage. If I see my husband eating a lot and not excercising much I openly tell him that he is going to get fat and I don't like fat guys. He doesn't get offended. He agrees with me. If I also feel like I am getting fat I tell my husband this and I go to the gym. Most of you up here you are just watching and not saying anything. You are crazy. Fat is unhealthy. If your wife can't take the honest comments then you don't have a real marriage. Go up to her and say you are putting on a lot of weight you need to lose weight. Any self respecting honest woman would understand. I hate people who say having kids is a good excuse to be fat. First of all you are not supposed to eat for two. It is scientifically proven that you only need to eat a handful more for the baby. Not two meals. Also you should exercise throughout your entire pregnancy. Also breastfeeding helps you loose a lot of the weight too. Unfortunately a lot of women nowadays are not doing this because they don't want their breasts too loose shape. They are selfish vain biatches. Hit the gym people and stop being lazy. Cut back on eating too. And it is not just about cardio. Do weight training. The older you get , the more important it is to do weight training. Cardio alone does not work.
Anonymous user 3 years
My woman is 5'5'' and 400 pounds, im 120 lbs and sex is amazing. And... no this is not a troll. She is an amazing person. She just isn't healthy. I am attracted to large women. Do I want her to lose weight? Hell I dont give a damn which way her weight goes so long as she is healthy. So... if she could get to about 180 to 250 pounds she'd probably be as healthy as she can be.. Obesity runs in her family. She has broad hips and all, which im attracted to. So even if she becomes emaciated that trait is going to show in her. Some people are big, others are small. I guess most men just want the lean tiny little model women on TV. Whatever.... Its hard to relate to the situation these men are in, because to be honest its not their fault what their attracted to. Im fortunate to be attracted to large women. Mainly large, but its not going to hurt if my woman loses weight either. So lucky us! All I do is sit back, and support any healthy choices. Which is ALL anyone can do.
Anonymous user 3 years
LOL after reading this I have learned men are too self centered to realize that criticizing their wife for gaining weight after having a baby causes her to feel resentment and hurts her feelings. Oh and men don't like change, even though it's the women whose body has changed forever and she has to work very hard to get back in shape in spite of the fact her husband is looking around (according to ur article) leaving her to do most of the child rearing, etc. So if men don't like change, why is he looking for new partners cuz wifey got a roll and a few stretch marks. So what I gather from this article is more excuses for men to be uncaring, shallow idiots who continue to see women as a possession and don't really have the capacity to love a woman. His only concern is her physical beauty and how he is satisfied. News flash: many men get fat too! What's their excuse?
Anonymous user 3 years
Fat = I hate you.
Anonymous user 3 years
My husband did this to me. The I inherited alot of money. Lost weight and found a lover and a divorce lawyer.
Anonymous user 3 years
You know I do love my wife. We have been married for 27 years. When we married she was 5'1" 120 pounds. Not really skinny but still had a body to die for. 27 years later she is well over 200 pounds and although I love her it is not a turn on. I don't expect her to be 120 pounds again but just a reasonable weight. Heck I wouldn't complain if she was 140. I have tried helping her every way I could think of. No luck. I keep myself in reasonable shape and work out when I can. Her health is starting to pay the price. Diverticulitis. The doctor told her lose weight change diet and exercise. Oh she gives lip service to being tired of being fat but makes no change in her lifestyle. Just tired of it. I see friends wives that keep in good shape and have more kids than we do. Just really depressed at this point.
Anonymous user 3 years
Having a baby is no excuse for gaining an extra 100lbs you can gain a manageable amount to loose after the birth. I know a woman who only gained her baby and she was back to her self with in weeks. Its really a turn off to be married and desire another woman when the woman you love gives up on pleasing her husband.
Anonymous user 3 years
I'm really shocked at the responses here... When I met my hubby in high school, I weighed 145. I am 5'8". After we married, I had our first child, and gained about 60 lbs. I felt like crap about it, I would cry and tell him how sorry I was, he would tell me on a daily basis he loved me and who I was inside- NOT my size- was what mattered to him. I've never been a small girl, I'm genetically doomed to be larger... all anyone has to do is to look at my father 's family to know that all the women are naturally bigger. I lost about 35 lbs through EXTREME HARD work, then about 5 years later had my second child, then the third and fourth every 2 years after. Through those pregnancies (eating HEALTHILY I might add), I was up 80 pounds from my initial weight before I had children. Again, through extreme hard work I lost and have kept off 50 lbs for the past 6 years. I struggle every minute and scrutinize what I put into my mouth. With 4 kids and a demanding career, I find it hard to 'train', but walk often and play with the kids and dog for exercise. I am not thin by any means, but am not unhappy with myself, either, and haven't cried about it since all those years ago. I like the weight I am, but do not want to be any bigger. The thing is, I have NEVER, NOT ONCE, felt like my husband was ashamed to be with me, nor did he make me feel unattractive or unsexy. We have never had anything short of a mind blowing sex life, and I have never argued with him when he wanted to leave the lights on in the bedroom, because I feel nothing but loved and desired NO MATTER WHAT SIZE I HAPPEN TO BE. It has never prevented him from sneezing peeks of me showering or getting dressed, and it certainly hasn't dissuaded him from nailing me three to five times a week over the past 20 years, either. I've seem him look at different sized women, from tight tummied to plus sized, and he tells me why they are beautiful, but also reminds me that none he's ever looked at are more so than I. He's one of those guys that every woman in the room looks at me with daggers he is so sexy gorgeous. He could have any woman in the room, and goes home with only me, every single night. (And on a side note, I have NEVER had an issue of getting hit on by other men either, even at my very largest size). What is happening here is LOVE. Those of you that said you love your fat cow of a wife are truly pathetic, and have no clue the meaning of the word. The hubby concurs, and calls all you poor excuses for "men" spineless and shallow losers who deserve to end up EXACTLY as you will for the rest of your worthless life- ALONE. As for the women supporting the anti cow movement- I'm really sorry that you feel so lowly of yourselves that what the eye can see is how you allow society to define you. I'm beyond grateful that I married the most wonderful, loving, sensitive, caring MAN with balls on the planet, and am glad I'll never have to deal with assholes like you.
Anonymous user 3 years
5ft 6. 115lbs before kids. Size2 waist with a size 5 bottom. And 28ff the equivalent to 34d breasts. Which is decent for my frame. I had 3 kids and now go back and forth between 125 and 130 lbs. I am a stay at home mother who is isolated at home. I homeschooling my kids so I work all day. I am always sick and am lucky if I can get 1500 calories in and I am nursing!I do without often. I don't have nice clothes, I want to finish school but can't afford it. I wish I could cook healthy food for our family but it just goes to waist. My husband wants me to stay home. I am by no means fat but I have a belly from a very weak core. I can't work out because my husband won't watch the kids. He won't pay for the gym. He doesn't make much money. Lacks ambition. Was 190 before kids but is now 230 lbs he is 6ft. It is not muscle. His belly is a 42. He smokes and had an amazing smile and now has a black hole in his front tooth. He is still attractive but it does gross me out at time. You see it isn't about men or women being g lazy. Its about your state of mind. BTW that biological scap goat is lame. Are you really saying you as a intelligent being can't not look at people who are not your partner? That's just a weak minded person. I myself look but its not because I CANT not look, its because I myself make poor choices at times and show allow weakness to overcome. At least be honest dudes. You look at others because you choose to.
Anonymous user 3 years
Well Im in the same boat. Married a beautiful slender woman and now 10 years later Im with someone that is so overweight I have to look at a magazine to get ready for. She wonders why I cant just see the person inside and have sex. Trouble is the person inside doesnt act that nice on the outside either so what do you do with that. Then she complains about not getting enough. Sorry but I dont want to. More fun now to use my hand.
Anonymous user 3 years
Birthing children does not justify laziness. You know who you are out there.
Anonymous user 3 years
Hate women and their bullsh*t excuses and -I'm- a woman. I'm one of the lucky ones who started dating my husband when I was 110lbs (5'7"). Over years of health problems and depression, I got up to 180. When did he marry me? When I was at my biggest. Why? Because he loves me and NEVER said a negative word. Shortly after our marriage, I took pride in myself and lost 50lbs in five months. Almost all of it was dietary. Chemical imbalances and polycystic ovarian syndrome aside, which so many women blame their obesity on, I'm now in the best shape of my life and I'm still working on losing. My motivation is the pride I owe myself, my husband, and my marriage. Most of all, I do it because I want to. Now my husband can happily say that he got the best deal: a hotter wife and even better sex while most men's wives get fatter and lazier. We'll have kids soon, PCOS and endometriosis permitting, but after we do, I'm going to work hard to regain the body I have now. I refuse to be the kind of woman who disgusts me. I refuse to do that to my body and husband that I love.
Anonymous user 3 years
My wife was obese when I married, her, then gained at least 50 more pounds. She was about five feet four inches, and got up to 275 pounds. She didn't notice that we no longer had a sex life, and that I no longer looked at her when she undressed. When she hit 275 and struggled into her underwear, I looked at her with astonishment that she could be so unaware of her physical condition, or that she could expect me to still be attracted to her. She had become so heavy she had no figure anymore. I made a point of never mentioning her weight, as she told me at the beginning it was a sensitive issue to her, and that any time a doctor told her to lose weight for health reasons, she would go on an eating binge. She was in complete denial as to her weight, appearance, health, or the fact that we no longer had a sex life. Yet she still expected completely loyalty from me. Most women expect appearance to be irrelevant to men, even though they kill themselves to look nice for the right man. At the same time, women are extremely harsh about men's appearance. I have had more women tell me than I can count that if a man is not tall or if he is bald or fat, she will never consider going out with him. For any woman who doesn't believe this, have a conversation with a few short bald men and ask them about their relationship status or love live. So, there is a bit of denial going on with women there; both in their behavior, their expectations of men, and the fact that they judge men just as harshly as men do women, yet feel men should not judge them on appearance. The fact is, women are entitled to weigh or look however they want, without comment or judgment from men. But they do not have the right to expect us to be attracted to them, or we are "superficial" or "bad" people.... Having said that, I'll now slam my own gender: The harshest and most judgemental (and loud) critics of women's weight and appearance usually comes from men who are out of shape themselves. We all suck. Or maybe we're more alike than either gender is willing to admit....
Anonymous user 3 years
this is what happened to my mother, she used to be really good looking and all. but when she had me and my sister, she became fat. she even cheated on my father LOL now my father is single hehe'
Anonymous user 3 years
My wife had gained over 80 lbs in the last year, she is a lazy fat slob with NO MORE EXCUSES. I'm playing with my cock every day now because she doesn't do ANYTHING FOR ME SEX WISE. She is a waste to have around, unless your in need of a pig
Anonymous user 3 years
My wife was 130 when I married her now 15 years later she weighs more than me she is 220 lbs she never offers any type of sex to me and when I ask it's always an excuse or reason why she can and won't do anything with or for me I've been forced to masterbate which is ridiculous when your married you should be able to have some type of sex with your wife now all she does is sit on the couch watch Ellen repeatedly take shits all day from all the stuff she eats clog the toilet and then look for a reason to plop on the couch or bed for a nap i am not happy at all and I'm looking to leave I can't stay here unhappy even for my 2 kids she also pays no attention to me or anything I ask her she used to also have very long nice hair now she cut it past her shoulders and her fat face shows even more she also picks and scratches at her feet which are all dried and infected she tops that make her look pregnant great life I turned out to have oh she also repeatedly picks her nose and flicks boogers I'm not making any of this up WHAT A SLOB SHE IS
Anonymous user 3 years
The best punishment for the selfish controlling pigs, behavior is usually driven by their own insecurities of their small-ass baby dicks is to dump them then lose weight. Hahahahah and f**kin ha! Punish time and it feel so good!!!
Anonymous user 3 years
I hope I Piss some of the shallow men off here! I am 5'2 and 130 which is big for my frame so I do eat healthy and during thanksgiving and other holidays I cut back my portions. If I want something sweet fruit and smoothies do the trick! But I understand taking care of yourself is important at any age! I was heavy once and did something about it at 155lbs I was with a loser though who wanted me to loose the weight to be thin for him cause that was what he was attracted to. The more he told me that was why he liked the more I couldn't loose. He wanted me to be as thin as the twilight girl. Second I left him the weight came off! So what I am saying and this will prob piss off the men here is that I stay thin not for my now husband but for me! I work out and look good for me. Why should my motivation be what a man thinks of me? God is more important and looks at the heart which right now is not super pretty deal to some body issues and being a perfectionist. But God gave me this body and I want to take care of it the best I can! It's nice my husband thinks I'm pretty but he has told me I am obsessed with looks and even wanted me to tell him what true beauty was. So I guess y'all will get a kick that I look good for me, my husband gets the benefits
Anonymous user 3 years
I love my wife to bits. But after 15 years, I have had enough. She was a size 6 when we met, right up till a few years ago, then she just put on the pounds. She doesn't clean the house any more, instead expecting me to do this as well as work, whilst she does nothing. She drinks ten pints of lager per day and refuses to walk upstairs or anywhere else unless it is to go to bed. I am expected to get everytthing for her, mainly beer, otherwise I am screamed at. Whenever I tell her this is wrong, I am told that I am to blame.
Anonymous user 3 years
Amazing, really pretty disgusted by the incredibly shallow people posting such horrible things about the people they supposedly "love" . I guess that love had a dress size attached to it! Seriously, how about your wife gets maimed in a car accident or burned in a fire or lost her breasts to cancer...... not the woman you married so you are no longer attracted to her? F**king don't get married if your feelings are only inspired by appearance.....stay single and date all the young, tight hotties. I am a 54 year old female fitness/ bodybuilder and I could care less what my partner looks like, it is called intelligence, kindness, and loyalty. One suggestion, all kill yourselves before you grow old and you are unfit with saggy skin because as you know there will be on one who cares for you.
Anonymous user 3 years
You know I see all these comments about "selfish husband" and the names they are being called. Well I am selfish enough to try to stay in shape for my wife. Have good hygiene, try to dress well and basically look as good as I possibly can at 50. I am 6'2" and weigh about 230. I life weights and am fairly muscular for my age. All this I have tried to do because I feel I owe my wife to look decent. My wife is 5'!" and is over 200 pounds by some. When we married she was about 120. Not a skinny girl but a shapely one. I don't expect that but if she was 20 or 30 pounds over that I wouldnt say a word. She is killing herself and wearing anything sexy is pretty much over now. Its not selfish. I love her. I just don't love all the fat.
Anonymous user 3 years
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Anonymous user 3 years
I guess all you guys bashing men are in the "Fat-Assed Ugly Bitch I wouldnt be caught dead with" category. ;P. Just kidding Lard ball.
Anonymous user 3 years
LOL! Good one. I was thinking the same thing. You know the ones calling men jerks and justifying their grotesque fat dimples in their ass, all while gorging their disgusting fat face with food. The very thought turns my stomach. "waaaaaaaHHHH! I had a baby", "Im big boned", "its not my fault". Hey fat ass! quit stuffing your disgusting fat face and maybe men wont swallow their own vomit at the sight of your heifer ass. You bet its your fault, lard ass. You ate it, you gained it. Its called reality Porkchop, and your pigs need a reality check.
Anonymous user 3 years
My husband calls me fat when we fight which obviously he means, but when he isn't mad he says, "I didnt mean it, I said it to hurt you" my question is why would someone do that? I am not as thin as I was when we first met at 16, but not fat. I had a baby 10 months ago, and I'm 7 months pregnant again. But I'm actually a fairly small person. Why does he want to call me that especially in the most unattractive stage of my life? When I'm carrying his baby :/
Anonymous user 3 years
Sex is better after 2 kids 16 years and 50 lbs. true love doesn't keep score. Love is all encompassing , And loves all the new folds. Always :) you couldn't pay me To date again . Love my life
Anonymous user 3 years
I wonder if all the men posting derogatory comments toward women while maintainting they are perfect snowflakes,actually are fat and ugly... it would shed some new light on the sitution. I mean the guy who is well-adjusted and reasonably attractive doesn't need to abuse others behind an anonymous identity.
Anonymous user 3 years
Just great so called experts. Well my youngest is 18 years old now and my wife is the fatest she has ever been. She was never real thin I didn't marry her because of that. But now after Facebook f**king different guys becoming so lazy she needs 8hrs of sleep at night and 2 naps during the day. Yes the fat is inexcusable but it's lazy slob that pisses me off. When I ask for sex it's I'm too tired, I don't feel like it. It's not that she turns me on anymore. I'm just not a cheater, but I'm a human that needs sex sometimes. She knows she's fat. She even says she is. So she is going to workout wow two days later I hurt so bad? The best exercise she could do is push herself out of bed, away from the table and computer. That is why I'm leaving her when my youngest moves out! My words to her will be now you need to get off your lazy fat ass bitch and do it yourself.
Anonymous user 3 years
Daughter is 11 years old and wife has still not lost ANY of the wieght gained from pregnancy. Whatever, the way the cookie crumbles i guess. Im too tired to care anymore.
Anonymous user 3 years
A little weight is expected, she bore our kids and we aren't 20-somethings anymore. But, just because we got this far along is no reason to completely let yourself go. My partner blames everything including her own health on anything else... you are responsible for your own health ladies. Crying foul when your men don't find you sexually attractive anymore because you almost double your weight cannot be that surprising. You still expect your partner to care and look after you -I would like to think most of us do-, but, if you don't respect yourself enough to stay healthy why do you expect any other person to respect you?
Anonymous user 3 years
Gaining weight is one thing, but adding worn out sweatpants, hair in a messy knot ond never more make up, a shower just every third day has made my georgious wife into a blumpy, sleeyzy blob. I do mot blame for her extra pounds, those can be lost, but I hate her unwillingnes to be be beutiful just for me that came with them.
Anonymous user 3 years
It's just true fat is not attractive. It makes a man happy when his partner is physically attractive. I think there are women who want to make their husbands happy and women who who don't care and prefer not to bother doing anything about their weight just expecting things to go on as normal. However it doesn't things change for the worse
Anonymous user 3 years
any man that does not love a big or fat woman is stupid and has never heard the saying, the bigger the cushion the better the pushing
Anonymous user 3 years
what is important to me is not the size of my wife, but how she takes care of herself. I have a wife that is 200 lbs, but you will never see her without her hair done and dressed to a tee
Anonymous user 3 years
Women are selfish lazy tarts who see having kids as an excuse to slack off and do nothing for the rest of their lives. They are always prepared to slag off at us guys but cannot stand the truth them selves. The physco idiots that support them should get real degrees not are bull sh*t arts affairs and actually help their patients to release their short comings and become real people not social losers.
Anonymous user 3 years
I don't have a problem with the fact that my wife has gained a lot of weight, the problem I have is she moans we don't have sex. Well why do you think that is? Love doesn't give you an erection, and if you want to be so fat I can't get hard any more that's your choice, just don't keep moaning we moan AT ME that we don't have sex any more, becasue I'm not the one that's four dress sizes larger than I was when we met.
Anonymous user 3 years
So many of these comments made me angry! How exhausting is having children! I have been feeling ugly lately after having my first baby. But after getting a few hours sleep at night (1 year old that's a ridiculously terrible sleeper) and 45 hour weeks of a physically exhausting work I seriously have no time not to mention energy to go to the gym or even walk around the house. Maybe if my partner helped out at night/ home a little more (he's full time studying) I'd actually be able to go for a walk. Or sleep and not require the sugarrush from chocolate.
Anonymous user 3 years
Stop making excuses and get on the treadmill. Fat is ugly. Period. If you don't care enough for yourself, your relationship or your man to do something about it, if you would rather wallow in self pity or be a pissy bitch that do the work necessary to stay attractive, don't be surprised when your man looks elsewhere. He deserves better than you.
Anonymous user 3 years
i have the same issue with my wife, and i'm fedup. I too have put on weight over the years, yet, after going onto a ketogenic diet, losing 8 Kg in 1 month , and waking up at the crack of dawn for gyming, yet I dont know why she still stuffing herself when she knows its pissing me off. And the sex, how the heck do you woman expect us to f**k a body with a large round tummy, it doesnt give a guy an erection, and makes sex extremely awkward and unenjoyable. Oh, and before any of you think I'm a typical male that sits on my arse all day, i work in a busy and stressfull IT company, I cook...PROPERLY, i take care of the children (i am the official nanny trainer for my babies, yes, me not mummy, i am the one that teaches nannys how to cook the food, feed the baby, bath, change etc..in actual fact, i give a lot of mummy's advise on how to take care of kids?!!??). Im sick an tired of you fat lazy woman, get the f**k off your arses, work out and diet.
Anonymous user 3 years
Fat people are lazy, end of story.
Anonymous user 3 years
Being a woman and being in this situation before I can say the phrase ""Being with an emotionally unavailable man often causes women to overeat or develop physical ailments." hits the nail on the head. Your wife is so busy caring for you and the family, how often do you make her feel her worth? How often do you go out of your way to care for her emotionally? You are too busy being critical. You are delusional especially if you think your wife is completely happy with you and your looks and habits. Are you balding? Are you completely physically fit? Do you ever clean or make dinner? Chances are shes not and thats why shes gained weight not because shes comfortable. Trust me shes screaming inside. Sounds to me like what you need is family counseling. I think it would help her to have someone listen to her and get it all out. You may be surprised how quickly then the weight comes off.
Anonymous user 3 years
Know one is to blame here people,everyone needs to calm down and think of this as a mature adult People have certain tastes in sex partners that they can not help regardless of what logic, or emotional attachements they may have , a drastic example would be " if your women were to grow a penis would you still have sex together? in of course not because I do not find men sexually attractive. Although this is an extreme example the same concept applies and that is to not have have with those you do not forget me attractive, and by doing so if a form of self sexual abuse .
Anonymous user 3 years
These are the most harmful, hateful and shaming comments I have come across ever... I can't believe these are real men who posted. Losing hope for our future boys is all I see. Instead of supporting you're wife's to loose weight, you go on here and make these nasty nasty horrible comments, this is so sad to read...
Anonymous user 3 years
Dumb ass article by fat female psychologist
Anonymous user 3 years
Well, everyone has the freedom to decide what they want to do, but they should be prepared to live with the consequences. I love having my partner's affection and admiration for my body. And keep myself fit and slim accordingly.
Anonymous user 3 years
Well - my wife gained weight before we had kids but really got big with our first born. She's gone down a little over the years (13 now) but is currently the biggest she's ever been and our youngest is 11. I still tell her I love her and she looks nice. I still want relations with her, because I love her... but just physical attraction? Not even a little bit. I just don;t find large women attractive. I never have and I can't just change what is attractive to me. I am currently pushing 40 in the best shape of my life with 15-16% body fat. I own my own martial arts school and work out hard about 10 days/week. I watch my caloric intake as I compete in my weight class and need to stay in it. My wife is currently on a good workout regime, but she still eats life crap. She's losing no weight. On top of all that, we were both smokers when we met. then we both quit when she got pregnant. Then she started back after our second kid. 10 years later, she's still a smoker and it drives me crazy. Like all of these other examples, I've tried to express my concern for her health rather than her appearance, but NOTHING seems to help!
Anonymous user 3 years
Here is a real situation. People who think all fat people eat too much really need to educate themselves. When I met my husband over 9 yrs ago I was average size. In the last 2 years I have been gaining weight and not been able to lose it with any amount of effort and I could not figure out why. Here it was my thyroid. I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and ad anyone who knows about the thyroid, it controls EVERYTHING. especially your matabolism. I have been on medication but it takes months...sometimes years to get the right dosage of medication to optimize the thyroid. I have gained weight i virtually can not lose at this point. Does it make me lazy ? NO..does it mean i eat too much? No. Some people can not or have a hell.of time controlling weight issues due to legit medical reasons. Look up "hypothyroidism" and educate yourself before you judge another human being.
Anonymous user 3 years
Here is a great story for the ladies. When my husband and I met 15 years ago we were both pretty fit. We got married and settled into married life. I gained weight lime crazy. I was in an accident that kept me immobe for several months, i gained weight, got depressed over gaining the weight and gai ed more weight. My husband kept his physique. He made little jabs at my weight gain and little jabs turned into cruel comments. After 2 years of cruel comments and actions on his part...I had a plan..but losing weight was not my only plan. I slowly got back into healthy eating, then excercise and so on. I lost all my weight and man did I look great. My husband started paying more attention to me, wanted sex now and couldnt keep his hands off me. But I kept turning him down and he wanted to know why. I recapped our life together, how he made me feel when i was at my lowest. I td HIM he is no longer attractive to me because of his ignorant ways, i told him i thought his dick was too small and i want a divorce. I td him that when i was fat he thought he could do better...well now that i am thin and getting attention from other men i realized what an asshole i was married too and i could do better then him. I did..i lft his sorry ass and he is still single. Because no woman wants a dred up old divorcee with a small dick and spusal support payments up his ass. Ladies...get out there...look good and dump the sorry looser of husbands your with and get REAL men.
Anonymous user 3 years
Being fit isn't enough anyway. Women can't compete with girls, nor should they. One commenter says he misses the girl he married. Well, she's a woman now, and it gets harder and harder to keep weight off as your hormones change, as the years go by- unless you eat like a buddhist monk and train for a triathlon. Who has time for that? And having a baby stretches out the stomach muscles, not to mention the skin. Men are hard wired to want girls, and girls are hard wired to want a baby. We both get what we want for a time, then we both get old, saggy, and dumpy. Women may get physically lazy, but men get emotionally lazy. What's a woman's motivation to get thin for a critical, callous, superficial jerk? That's not the guy she married. Maybe we miss the guys we married. Has anyone ever thought of that? They made us feel loved. That's why we cared how we looked to them. If a guy isn't supportive when we aren't at our best, then that tells us what he's really about, and that he's not worth winning back. We now realize it was all conditional. And when we're rejected, objectified, and demoralized by the person we love more than anyone, it just makes us want to cry and eat Haagen Das, not do crunches and eat lettuce. Duh! Ladies, stay fit for your own health and out of compassion for yourself, not for the fleeting, meaningless affection of your husbands. And if you lose enough weight that he wants you again, tell him no, and go off by yourself and read 50 shades of grey. Also, it's never fair to compare us to celebrities. they're genetic marvels, which is why they're celebrities. Duh! And it's their full time job to look good. They don't have to wash their own cars, or manage their own finances, or go to an 8 hour job, or wash there own clothes, or mind their own kids, etc... That's what's meant by having the time and money to lose weight after a baby, not simply the ability to hire a trainer. And BTW, men don't start checking out other women when their wives get fat. They never stopped looking. Even when they first fall in love with them, they're always looking for something better. And not that any man cares, but for the record- your fat wife has the same feelings as the pretty little girl you married.
Anonymous user 3 years
Fat is unhealthy, fat is a turn off, fat is ugly, fatness displays the amount of will and commitment in a person, fatness also displays lack of discipline, that will never change. No body is asking you to be a slim top model, just be healthy and try to last in this world. If your man is fat as well shame on him.
Anonymous user 3 years
"Most men are selfish dicks?" Please, don't cheat on your husband with over eating and too much junk food. One of the greatest gifts a woman can give her husband is her body; it is healthy and beneficial to a marriage for both individuals to maintain a reasonable weight for each other.
Anonymous user 3 years
Still in love with her.... I'm 63 and she is 54. I'm getting older, balder and weaker as I age. She is getting older, has gained weight. So who cares. She's the best part of my life. She truly is my companion. Is it perfect? No. But I love to spend time with her. If she passed my life would be empty and void.... I look at her every day and feel grateful that God brought her to my side. I do not lord over her. We are equals. Because we treat each other this way, she has become more important to me then I am to me.... Forget your self and live for your companion....
Anonymous user 3 years
I cannot stand the clanking of the spoon coming from the living room as she eats a bowl of ice cream right before bed on a nightly basis. She cut her hair off short and wears sweat pants all day long. We haven't had sex in several months. I just can't do it anymore. And she wonders what is wrong.
Anonymous user 3 years
Women are selfish because they feed their gluttony over all else. Nasty
Anonymous user 3 years
Why do men get fat? They dont have babies and the majority of men are bloody ugly to start with. Glad I have the guy I got. Hes georgus a proper man and if he got fat ever id still see a goergus guy. Oh and uf men are so upset why dont they get a real job with real wages and boost their girls co fidence through surgery instead of moaning about it. Cos moanimg wont do nothing. MONEY will. Oh and she might need a dildo after birth cod yo dick just got to small. Or she could just find a proper man like mine.
Anonymous user 3 years
You niggaz need money. If your girls fat its cos your as broke as a f in boat and completely useless in her life
Anonymous user 3 years
Wow, it's amazing that when women let themselves go they take it out on the guy. Sure there are dicks out there that want just a trophy wife but most just want some effort to keep attractive and show they actually care about what their husbands think of them just like when dating. Frankly it says a lot about the marriage when they diverge in priorities about taking care of themselves. The guy loses either way. Either he can become passive, forget about getting aroused anymore, and just get old or they can try do something about it with the hopes the wife will join him.
Anonymous user 3 years
I stay in shape; my wife doesn't--though she does exercise occasionally. Here is the nub: I work a full 5-day week--she workds about 20 hours--the rest of the time, she lies in bed eating and watching crap on her phone. So--she is not overflowing with fat on the thighs, gut, and arms---about 25 lbs more than her body can take. She knows I hate it--and I have alluded to it, but playfully. I don't want to be too direct for fear of hurting her desperately; Net effect: I have sex with her very infrequently. I don't enjoy it much--but she doesn't really care. She could live without sex for the rest of her life. I will probably have an affair at some point---in the mean time, she is uninterested in counseling and I she shows no interest in diet programs (though she does not eat all that unhealthily).I am remaining patient because, in truth, I don't want to cheat....yet, I miss the past. Good thing I have lovable dogs who who take my mind off of this situation.
Anonymous user 3 years
By no means should we allow accusations of superficiality influence our decisions in which woman we ‘should’ find attractive. As a Man, we are well within your rights to expect a maintained physique from a woman, considering the far greater sacrifices she expects from us. Would you leave her if she got fat? Damn right you would. Would she leave you if you went beta-listless-unemployed-alcoholic? Damn right she would.
Anonymous user 3 years
Yeah, I get it. A motivated guy in good shape is just supposed to SUCK IT UP later when his wife no longer sees life the same way ........ he may have married the Pretty Woman he had so much in common with. Her motivated attitude toward life was the real attraction...... her fit body merely a symptom of this positive attitude he found so very attractive. How-ever, now she's lazy, unmotivated and fat.... and one day she's surprised to learn he's disappointed? Give me a break! Maybe this woman should have played her hand before marriage differently. She should have used her good looks and fit body to "land" the fat guy......the lazy one eats constantly. This way when she joins him later in the sloth like lifestyle she'll have her perfect match and the man who can very easily over look the issue entirely. I'm sorry but here's the truth.. You can either get FAT as a COUPLE TOGETHER or you can at least stay active and in REASONABLE shape vs your partner in marriage Problems will begin to show themselves when the resentment or rejection inevitably shows itself.
Anonymous user 3 years
Interesting article. Very objective and true. I agree with it all. Have been married 15 years and still just under 40. However the last 7 yrs my wife is just getting heavier and heavier despite me raising the warning signals over her diet, lifestyle and Lack of fitness or exercises many years ago. I've attempted to be very objective but she just slams me for even mentioning it. I see some other posts from women doing the same that a guy could be like that. For me others sentiment doesn't even matter. Bottom line I've become miserable and do not want anything sexual to do with my once beautiful wife. I am sick of excuses and it is what is is I suppose. Just want to be happy and would prefer to be with someone who looks after themselves. Maybe that's the odd thing about men but it's the reality and the same for snout every guy I've known in my life. Some girls may complain on this forum but know that men are men and either they will already be with other women or eventually will leave. Simply making an effort and keeping the weight off to some level makes all the difference. Perhaps it's similar with women but I know that ultimately men are more superficial Than women and care more about this stuff than women. We're different creatures. I will not stay with ,y once lively wife if the trend continues and while some men will due to weakness to leave they ultimately will just be miserable and talk terribly behind Ps your backs and just sleep with other women behind your back with whatever chance they get. Sad maybe but the truth
Anonymous user 3 years
I've never been pretty. In fact, I get uglier and thinner the older I get but my husband still loves me. I'm a nice person and that matters more than looks.
Anonymous user 3 years
I told my wife is she got fat I'd leave her before we got married. She said what about having kids? I said that's ok as long as you lose that weight within a year. Kid or no kid fat is not hot. Fat does not turn me on and I'm sure every other man unless your black. Black dudes love fat white chicks.
Anonymous user 3 years
This advert is fukin sick and the type of sh*t that would make a mama kill herself I was like a taylor swift bow after 2 kids I'm 2 stone heavier. I don't stuff my face or over idulge like this sh*t says I have just been the best mum to my kids I can. U look at the celebs who shift their weight but they f**k their kids off with a nanny. If my husband thinks I'm fat tough shit. I am who I am!! Fuk all u haters u wanna try it bcos it isn't as easy as it looks.
Anonymous user 3 years
I don't know what to do, my wife keeps gaining weight and expects me to be attractive to her. We've been married 12 years, 3 kids (10,7,4). When I met my wife she was gorgeous, 5'7 140 lbs long beautiful blond hair, now she is 327 lbs, I know this because she was in the hospital last month and saw it in the paper work. She can hardly climb the stairs and breaks out in a sweat walking down the stairs. I don't expect her to look like she did in her 20's and 30's or like a model but there is no excuse to weigh 327 lbs. She cries all the time over her weight, I've done everything to help her I can think of, gym membership, personal trainers, I cook all healthy meals and do the majority of the food shopping. My wife doesn't work, she sits on the couch all day and eats and eats, our youngest daughter is a little big for her age and I'm concerned. When I speak to my wife she cries and says she will go on a diet but never does, she always sneaks unhealthy food around the kids. My wife thinks in shallow and tells me she can't believe how concerned about looks I am, when I tell here it's not looks it'a about being healthy. She tells me I've put on weight also, I agree I have, I am 6'2 when we meet I was 200 lbs and now weigh 235. Last night my wife came to bed in a thong, she thought it was sexy, the lights were off but I could still see all her fat rolls and cellulite. I told her I was attracted to her anymore and told her he has 6 months to lose weight if not I was going to divorce her. Hope she loses the weight, I'm not in love with her her but will stick around for the kids, if she get healthy again.
Anonymous user 3 years
My wife gained 100 lbs in 5 years and we do NOT have any children. I love her but am no longer attracted to her. She recently asked if I love her, I told her I do a lot but am not physically attracted to her anymore. I gained no weight since we got married.
Anonymous user 3 years
I asked my wife to sign a prenup after negotiations she did. If I could go back I'd put a clause in there that she couldn't weigh more than 150 lbs. she is 5'2 and pack on well over 100 lbs after our first and only child; our son is 11, once he turns 18 and goes off to college I'm leaving my fat wife. We've been married almost 13 years and she does nothing but gain weight each year. I work and provide for the family, I go to the gym 4 days a week and maintain my weight. My fat wife is so lazy it makes me sick.
Anonymous user 3 years
I posted on here a few hours ago about my fat wife but I forgot to mention she is so FAT she can no longer shop at a normal store. It appears the stores in the mall only go up to a size 3X some have size 26/28 my FAT is too big for that size. I look in her closet that is packed with clothes, some even with tags on them, she has even taken over another closet in the house. Why is she saving all these clothes that don't fit. She has stuff in her closet from size 6 - 30. She is never going to be a size 6 again she holds onto these things like they mean something. It makes me so mad, all the money I spend on clothes each year because my fat wife can't stop eating. My wife is the fattest.
Anonymous user 3 years
My dar wife ... She went from a smokin hot 125 lbs to 225-250 lbs in 8 years and she is only 5'2 she waddles when she walks. I am embarrassed to be seen with her in public. We hardly ever go out to eat, last time we went out to eat I was humiliated by what she ordered. Soup with a ton of cheese in it, onion rings and chicken wings for a appetizer, salad which was a joke, she hardly touched it, she ordered the biggest platter of chicken and ribs and ate it all including the fries, then ordered ice cream for dessert and drank 3 diet cokes. As soon as we got home she went straight for the Oreos and went upstairs with the bag. By the time I got upstairs she finished the bag in bed and there were crumbs in there, again. She was in nasty sweats and asked if I wanted to fool around, told her no I had a headache, she said again. She tried to kiss me but I turned her down as fat doesn't turn me on. She went downstairs, 3 hours later I went down stairs and found her passed out on the couch with empty food containers around her. My fat wife eats and eats until she passes out on the couch. It's getting increasingly harder to resist other woman. I don't know how much more of this I can take. I've gone 5 years without sex because she has put on so much weigh I'm not attractive to her physical. I've hunted around the situation to her but she doesn't lose any weight. This is not what I signed up for when I asked her to marry me.
Anonymous user 3 years
My wife is fat pig. She put on so much weight and her body is one big saggy mess, boobs, booty, belly... She is a hot mess. I jerk off everyday and look at pics in magazines.
Anonymous user 3 years
My wife isn't fat she is morbidly obese. she is 5'5 and is 350-400 lbs, she wears a 6X. She only leaves the house late at night to go to Walmart to get food.
Anonymous user 3 years
June 1, 2014, I sat my fat wife down and told her I was miserable in our marriage and things had to change. She had gained easily 100 lbs and I finally told her I wasn't attracted to her. I loved and cared about her but wasn't in love with her, I told her I missed my beautiful hot sexy wife. I missed making love, going out and the fun part of us. I bared my heart and soul to her and told her if she didn't begin to lose weight I was going to leave her. She cried, I told her she had 1 year to make a change, over that next year I expected her to lose 1 pound a week to equal 50 pounds over the next year. I'd go to the gym with her, offered to cook all the meals, told her she could get a personal trainer ... Anything but things needed to change ASAP. Sadly the year is up and not only did my wife not lose any weight but she packed on a few more pounds. Our kids will be hurt but I think as time goes on they will understand. We've been married nearly 23 years, 4 children, 21, 18, 17, 14; the oldest 2 are out of the house and are in college, one finishes HS next and and then my youngest finishes HS in 3 years. With the youngest was a little older, I've thought about this for years and years and am completely miserable how many years should I be miserable. I'm a 44 year old man, athletic in good shape I want a partner who wants to live life. Going to talk to my fat wife in 13 days when my youngest two are out of school.
Anonymous user 3 years
Married 14 years, wife went from a size 8 to a size 26. I have no idea how much she weights she won't tell me but it's a lot. I tried on a pair of her jeans one day and I could fit both my legs in 1 of her leg pants. We haven't had sex in 7 maybe 8 years stop counting. I agree, it's ridiculous to have to masterbate when you are married. That's the point of having a wife. Fat and ugly doesn't turn me one but when the lights are out and it's dark and I've had a few beers she could go down on me. She says she doesn't like to do that. She did it everyday when we were dating and more.
Anonymous user 3 years
My fat wife is lazy and I hate her
Anonymous user 3 years
I hate my fat wife. It's 1:00 AM and I am awake because her fat butt won't stop passing gas. Wish I could get a divorce and be happy.
Anonymous user 3 years
What the women responders don't get, is that along with unhealthy lifestyle if an overweight wife, you lose your sex partner, your hiking buddy, going to beach partner and even someone to go to church because she has nothing that looks good on her no matter what enc I urge mentioned you give her. I think it is selfish of her to put the man in that situation. I love my wife, but it can be months before I get sex, it is embarrassing to take her to work functions cause she dresses like crap..I took care of myself, what's her deal. It is affecting our children too cause she always so bitchy.
Anonymous user 3 years
A man cannot be blamed if his wife becomes unnattractive. He cannot force himself to be attracted to an unattractive women. Both man and wife should respect themselves and each other by taking care of their health and appearance - and if they fail to do so, the consequences are their fault.
Anonymous user 3 years
I agree. I work in a very professional job, I wear a jacket and tie every day. When we have work events all the men are in a suit and tie, ladies wear a dress with pantyhose and heals. My wife want to wear a pair of worn jeans that have stains on them and sneakers. She doesn't understand that's embarrassing for me. When I try to explain it to her she fights with me. It's embarrassing to be seen with my wife in public. There are big woman who take care of their hair and nails and wear make up and put on nice clothes. I don't even think my wife showers every day. She is sleeping when I leave in the mornings and is on the couch in the same sweats when I get home from the office or the gym. The hardly cooks dinner and when she does its all unhealthy food. We have 5 children B 11, B 9, G 6, B 3 G 18 months. The only time we have sex is when she can get pregnant. The doctor told us last month our youngest two need to go on a diet. My wife says they are fine they are healthy, the doctor has warned us, telling us they are a little wide for their height and to cut off all junk food. They don't need to necessarily lose weight just grow in height and stop gaining weight. My wife doesn't see this as a problem. My wife stays home with the kids. I got rid of all the junk food and replaced it with healthy foods, my wife had a fit and went to the store thr next day to buy chips, popcorn, dip, candy, ice cream ... Etc. I can't continue to watch her make my children fat, I've threatened divorce in the past she laughs and tells me she will take me to the cleaners. She can have the money, the house, the boat, the cars, I've told her she can have it all I can earn more money, I want the kids. She laughs. I've already started working on getting rid of her, she just doesn't know it. My wife was once a blond bombshell 5'6 135 lbs, hair, nails make up always done, she would turn heads everywhere we went. Now she is a good 200+ lbs, she takes my sweats I'm 6'2 225lbs. It's one thing to be fat but it's another to be fat and lazy and not take care of yourself. I knew her looks wouldn't last forever but I never thought she would turn into this. It's not even thr weight that turns me off the most the, she is so lazy, doesn't show everyday doesn't brush her hair, I wonder if she brushes her teeth. Amy, my once forever love, I'm done with you.
Anonymous user 3 years
I'm worthless in his eyes now. I'm just waiting for the day he leaves. He clearly doesn't even like me anymore, let alone love me. I'm fat, ugly, lazy (work almost 90 hours a week), no good, spends his money (I don't even have panties that aren't 4 years old, that's how much money I can get. Last I spent was $6 for nail polish, I never buy ANYTHING, cut my own hair, never ask him for a dime. I spend probably $60 a year on myself). He is so mean to me. I just wish I was dead.
Anonymous user 3 years
Even if a woman maintains an ideal weight (from a health perspective), age takes a toll. A wife of 48 cannot compete with her former self at age 18. Breasts sag, the once perfect bubble butt flattens, curves disappear. Hello wrinkles, cellulite, and spider veins. Married people continue to have sex, however. I think the best strategy for a man is to define attractive as whatever is available.
Anonymous user 3 years
I don't understand why every article insults men like this. When you get married, you make a vow to only have sex with that person and no one else. Soooo fast forward to a fat wife with no sex drive...is it fair to be in a monogamous relationship with yourself? (because women can say no to their husband and it's ok) And if you do have sex, it's once in a blue moon with an ugo? Who's standing up for the men here? Why is it suddenly a grade against their character when they are now socially castrated? Can't have sex with the wife or anyone else?! Why can't you argue that these women aren't just NOT taking care of themselves but NOT taking care of their partners. Unless he courted and married you when you were obese, he's not gonna want you if you become obese. If you want to be big and beautiful wonderful woman then hook up with a guy who wants you fat and not thin. Otherwise stop torturing men. Men ARE NOT THERAPISTs!!! "She said if you're turned off by an overweight partner, the fix is in confronting the emotional issues behind the weight issue. " Who the hell can talk someone out of being fat?! NO ONE CAN!!!!
Anonymous user 3 years
She yells at me and calls me superficial. I am not superficial, you did not weigh 225 lbs when we meet or got married. We've only been married 4 years our son is 2, she has gained weight AFTER having the baby. Fat and ugly does not turn me on, get it through your head. I've been telling her lose the weight or I will leave, she threatened me, she will take the house and half my retirement ... She can have it, I'm fed up with her fat ass. I can make more money, I can never get this time back I wasted with your fast lazy ass. Married life sucks! Wish I never got married.
Anonymous user 3 years
It's not just the quantity that people eat, it's the quality of food in the mainstream food supply. GMOs severely disrupt the system. Aspartame in diet drinks scars the liver and makes the detoxification of the body difficult. We must all stay aware of the crap that mainstream food has become and eat HEALTHY food.
Anonymous user 2 years
I was looking for an article to explain why I am extra attracted to my wife after our second child, I thought it could be some pheramone she is spraying me with, perhaps some evelotuon based ability to ensure a male stays around. Instead I find this. She has gained some weight and I agree that fat isn't hot, but for some reason I really want to have sexy with her, like "high school guy really wants to have sex". I guess it's just me. In response to all the angry people with fat wives and the wives who lost interest in staying in shape: if you don't like what you have or what you have doesn't like you, then change one of those two things. As for me, I can't wait til the OB lets me have at the beautiful mother of my two kids
Anonymous user 2 years
I am one of four brothers, we all married and our wives have children. Here is the funny thing the wife three of the wives had 2 kids each, and the 4th wife had 4 kids and she is the skinny one! So its not pregnancy that made you fat. It was your poor eating habits and lack of exercise during and after the pregnancy! Stop blaming the men in your life and take some pride in your yourself.
Anonymous user 2 years
Found this article when I was looking for stuff to help my big wife. I spent 6 hours in the hospital tonight and nearly $750 out of pocket with insurance (thank you Obamacare) my wife fractured her wrist when she was trying to wipe her butt on the toilet. It appears my wife has gotten so ridiculously fat she can no longer wipe her own ass. We left the hospital, got her pain meds, she picked up some food, came home and 3 hours later she asked me to help her in the bathroom. She said she can't use her left hand and needed my help. 14 years of marriage and my wife and puts on 10-15 lbs each year. I've spoken to her about her weight so many times. I talked to her about it today and told her she needs to get it off. I am not sticking around to wipe her big butt multiple times each day.
Anonymous user 2 years
I think it's something in the meat,eggs and milk. Hormones to fatten cows up for possessing or somthing. Idk? My wife eats the same stuff I do and she's huge. Really huge. She is moving all day at work. But damn!. 190lbs. She's gained 60 lbs in just 6 years. Plus, there's fat women all over . What is going on. ??
Anonymous user 2 years
My wife is putting on weight and I need to figure out a way to stop her before she gets too fat. We had our second child last November, she lost a lot of the baby weight quickly and now I've noticed these last 3-4 months she has gained 25-30 lbs.
Anonymous user 2 years
DOPE SMOKERS.. puff on with me.. this story is gay.
Anonymous user 2 years
wife turned into a hippo.. now i make animal noises and bang her right after a good crap.. always doggy style so I dont have to kiss that mammoth mammal.
Anonymous user 2 years
Ahahaha good luck boys.ive got two pups who eat what they're given. Its harder to control a pig.
Anonymous user 2 years
Wish I could understand my wife's live for FOOD and not LIFE. She is eating herself to an esrly death. My wife's weight has easily doubled in these past 16 years. She tells me I don't look the same either, I lost my hair and shave my head bald, I didn't double my weight you fat cow. Married life sucks when your wife goes from a hot sexy blond to a fat ugly cow who is always in sweat pants and eating. We have 1 child who is 11 and she never lost and baby weight and gains every year. My wife does nothing, she didn't work, we have a maid that comes in twice, she never cooks dinner anymore, she will have simmered delivered or pick up food from a restaurant. She truly does nothing, she is always too tired to have sex! Tired from what I ask and they shouldn't matter all she first is lay there. My wife out all the time and effort into the relationship before we got married. The day we got married things changed. She was no longer trying to get a ring.
Anonymous user 2 years
F**k you asshole writer
Anonymous user 2 years
If you want to help her, help her. If you don't get a divorce. Pretty simple.
Anonymous user 2 years
Men are ok to, drink excessively, gain weight, dress badly, and not make an effort hygenically,and then make their lovely partners feel bad about their bodies! I'm in he process of writing a book about men in 2015. Most women over 37 would prefer to be with another woman rather than have a man in the UK touch her again in her (Lifetime!!!) . If that doesn't say something for the poor quality of men in the UK I don't know what does. Most men met in the UK these days are drunks, can't string a sentence together, and can't finish a sentence without using te F word, (Classy boys!) . Thats why there is a string of lovely women looking outside the UK or tey would rather be on their own for te next 50 years!!! If that doesn't say something I don't know what does,
Anonymous user 2 years
Maybe if he was man enough to bring in a decent income, she could get a personal trainer after the baby he helped to make. But then he only gave 10 seconds to the pregnancy so maybe he feels entitled. Sounds like small penis syndrometo me!
Anonymous user 2 years
"She said most of these celebrities had support, including a personal trainer." ...and plenty of plastic surgery.
Anonymous user 2 years
A woman wouldn't stay with her man if he became an unemployed skinny crackhead LOL. I don't see why so many women are mad at this. You let go of yourself and he's suppose to be ok with it because you're married? Sounds selfish to me.
Anonymous user 2 years
How refreshing, speaking your mind here, gets your comment flagged as spam. Fat delusional people in the comments section.
Anonymous user 2 years
please please please......women and men......get in shape to save your relationships....and on top of that your lives.....one key to remember while eating: if it grows eat it....if it doesn't grow don't eat it!.....and do some exercise....doesn't mean to join a gym or get an expensive personal trainer....just first thing in morning .....few pushups and crunches and stick with it for a few months...you'll see the difference.....stay fit, healthy and attractive....then you'll have a lot of sex....;)
Anonymous user 2 years
well, if you dont marry someone because you love them and only for what they look like then move on , if your wife is not attractive to you anymore, get yourself a blow up doll that looks like barbie, if you cant love someone based on love then leave.. if its only based on physical attraction, what kind of love is that ??? I would be glad if a man left me if I gained alot of weight, i dont need them if that is all they care about. you want someone that loves you for you, for better or for worse, for richer or poorer ... not for thin or for hot. etc. etc. how shallow and stupid can people be. Frankly i would not give two shits if a man leaves me because I gain weight, i will tell him to get his penis enlarged too
Anonymous user 2 years
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Anonymous user 2 years
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Anonymous user 2 years
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Anonymous user 2 years
Women are quick to lash out at men that cannot stand having their wife get fat and nasty and think men are evil pigs for wanting to leave such a fat wife who has no respect for her husband or herself via her own appearance, YET if a guy loses his job and cannot find a new one right away and has no other funds to pay all the bills WOMEN will all CALL THAT MAN A LOSER and all be like "You go girl" and tell her to leave his ass. Remember the equivalent of a fat woman is not a fat man, it is an unemployed man. Think about that one..........
Anonymous user 2 years
My wife and I have been married for 35 years now, with one child born in 1987 after 7 years of marriage and another born in 1991 after 11 years of marriage. When we met in the mid 70's she was indeed my goddess, she looked great and also I might add felt better about herself then. After the first child she gained maybe 20 pounds, no big deal, that happens, I get that, that was really not a problem. After the second child she gained maybe another 5 pounds, also not a big deal, but sometime around 1996-1997 she started ballooning and is now at 5'7" she is almost 300 pounds. She's had a lap band implanted, no help. She doesn't like the way she looks right now and mostly tries to ignore it. I have tried very hard in the years since the "ballooning" to act as if it is no big deal and that it does not bother me, but heaven help me it does. As we have both gotten older and I have developed arthritis and bone spurs in my elbows that hurt a great deal not just during sex but even more so during sex, I’ve got a bad back, and I have root nerves being pinched in my neck, plus her weight … sex is just hard to do and simply doesn't seem worth the effort anymore, and hasn’t for at least 10 years. I have a hard time pushing through the pain in order to get anywhere with it. Even though I have tried to tell her the weight is not the problem (I weigh about 25 pounds more than I should as well), and it certainly isn't the only problem, she only seems to focus on that, but I have tried to never tell her outright that the weight is a problem ... until a few days ago when we had a blowout fight about "our relationship". She confronted me point blank about the weight and said to tell her the truth over and over about the weight, so I finally did. Now, she is so depressed, I feel horrible for both telling her about it and holding out on her for so long. What is a guy to do? Her weight has affected her own sense of self-esteem over the years, but she seems unable and/or unwilling to do what it takes to lose it or even make a dent in it. For me, the weight is not just the visual effects, there are physical hurdles, and age, and self-esteem, and other somewhat associated emotional baggage that all gets rolled up together in this entire topic called “fat wife”. The same would apply for a “fat husband” as well, but us men are perhaps more shallow than women on the physical appeal topic, it is kind of built into our genes. (I’m really not trying to make excuses here, we do have brains to try and overcome our innate programming, but that is a lot easier said than done.) Signed: perplexed, sad, and shallow
Anonymous user 2 years
I think women that say it takes a year to lose weight after having a baby are just lazy I'm scared to take my family to the seaside in case my gr8 gets harpooned anything help me
Anonymous user 2 years
Hang on, so the wife gets fat, and the husband is blamed for the wife's delicate mental state because he's honest about her weight gain? How about, no one wants a fat ugly partner and pussyfooting and sugar coating never helped anyone..
Anonymous user 2 years
seriously, all of this is pathetic! i'm in my early 40s and have been with my husband for over 26 years. we have two teens and enjoy sex AT LEAST 3 times a week and have never gone through so called dry spells. I weigh 118 pounds and my husband about 155, we are of average height. coincidence? NO! if you truly value your marriage, your partner, your relationship, your health, etc.. you need to get off the "big is beautiful" and "love me for me" bulls**t! no one, with the exception of those who have a sexual fetish for fatties, wants to have sex with a whale. not even another whale, ironically enough. and women are the absolute worst for enabling other women to be fat. I have had to bite my tongue so many times as fat lonely girlfriends talk about how men are jerks and they cheat on women and all that....all while watching these fat women order 3000 calorie dinner entrees followed by dessert, AFTER they have had huge lunches, big breakfasts, and one or two doughnuts cupcakes or frappuccinos as snacks thrown in for good measure. mind blowing and so sad :( and to the husband who said his wife eats the same as him and she weighs a lot more and he was blaming additives in food. ummmmm, NO! she is probably doing all kinds of eating at work where women love to bond and banter over fried, greasy, or sugary food. i think it should be the law of the land for everyone to keep a food diary,..some of these husbands of fat wives would be AGHAST at how much that fat *** of a wife is actually shoveling into their face. AND THEN THEY CLAIM THEY HAVE THYROID OR HORMONAL WEIGHT GAIN...cut me a f***ing break!
Anonymous user 2 years
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Anonymous user 2 years
I'm in a similar situation only our child is a freshman in college now. My wife also has more than doubled her weight to a whopping 350 lbs from a lucius 150 lbs & no amount of understanding, patience, or 3yrs of counseling along with Dr concerns will make her lose the pounds. I married her overweight because I loved her, was in love with her, & she promised to lose the weight. 15 yrs later she has done nothing! There is no sex & she calls me shallow because I'm not feeling the excess weight & I'm not into obese women! If men are visually simulated 1st why is it such an issue when a husband shares the concerns with his wife that the excessive weight is creating bedroom problems. My wife insisted that I stop going to strip clubs because of how it made her feel! Are my feelings less important
Anonymous user 2 years
Men are gross pigs that's why the only men I like are gay ones.
Anonymous user 2 years
I agree about UK men! Especially SCOUSERS. Thick, ignorant swearing buffoons that goad and take the piss out of their wife n girlfriend. I'm not fat, I'm slim n pretty but my husband has lost intrest in me lately. He's been taking calls from some ugly girl n wants to have she with her instead i think. It makes e feel so bad. You don't have 2 be FAT to lose your husband to another girl. Men cheat all the time cos they wanna just get their dick wet.
Anonymous user 2 years
I love how all the fat lazy bitches whine like the cry babies they are when men speak the truth. If you don't like that you getting lazy, fat and blaming everyone and everything for your stuffing your face.. yes that is all that it is.. you stuffing your face, no complicated explanations needed.. Well stop doing it or enjoy being dumped like the trash you became.
Anonymous user 2 years
I lost my pregnancy weight after 3 months and went to work full time. I am size 8, hour glass figure. I pay my salary to nursery to look after my child, to a cleaner to clean my home and I always eat healthy and go to gym once a week. I hate fat mothers envying my figure, or saying only celebrities can get a figure back- bull shit- , fat women are plain lazy and careless about their husbands. The best thing I can give my husband is my loyalty and off course being an eye candy. He says he does not feel tired when he sees me. In return this makes me feel even better. So zen circle swirls up.
Anonymous user 2 years
YES, and my wife smells worse than my Dog's balls. Tickyul
Anonymous user 2 years
Women just have excuses for everything. Im tired, my feet hurt my back hurts, etc, etc, etc. Dont get me wrong, their daily lives are busy with kids or work but you can always find time to work out or just eat something healthy. Drink water vs soda, have an apple vs a bag of chips and so on. Yes i have a parter that is over weight and its very unattractive. Excuse after excuse, i heard it all. Dont get me wrong she works a full time job. I look at like this if i too work a full time job and take kids to school, appointments, cook and and clean and still find time to work out then what is her excuse? In my eyes its just being lazy and making up excuses. Im not looking for her too look like a super model, but just take care of yourself to better yourself. If your back and feet hurt drop some weight and exercise. It will help with the feet and back pain if you really even have it. We get called dicks and asshole for telling the truth. Why lie, just be honest with your partner.
Anonymous user 2 years
Weight is 100% related to calories in versis calories out. Very simple. The excuse that medication caused weight gain is false. The medication may have stimulated the appetite, but that is within a person's control. Thyroid issues are also not an excuse once the person goes to the doctor and gets the proper medication. slow metabolism- again, no. It's a very simple equation- if you eat more calories than your body burns, you will gain weight. I read through all the comments and must say it sounds like the weight gain is related to depression/mental health. The wives should go to therapy. If they are not willing to take control of their lives, why should their husbands be penalized and have to live the rest of their lives in a miserable loveless relationship? If the wives are unwilling to take any accountability over their conditions, refuse to have a rational discussion over the weight issues, become mean and or hostile, then why should their husband's suffer? As a married woman my heart goes out to so many of these commenters. They hve tried to reason with their wives, they have tried to help but the wives flat out refuse it. At some point enough is enough. I suspect there would be more support for these husbands of we replaced the term "fat wife" with "drug addict wife". I bet the people that wrote the hate comments would completely support the husbands decision to leave in that situation. Fact of the matter is obesity is completely preventable and can be reversed. Is dieting easy - no, who likes to deny themselves. fact remains the majority of these over weight wives make the decision to not take action to improve their health, hygiene (obesity is not hygienic), or marriage. tthey did this to themselves, and are selfish enough not to change even though it is hurting their families (husband and children). Shame on them. I log what I eat everyday because I want to remain healthy, for myself and for my husband. He logs what he eats as well. We never asked each other to do this. We also wear fitness trackers. I got mine first because I wanted to know how active I am and not have to guess. He thought it was interesting and got one for himself a few months later. Neither one of us are over weight. He is 58, 5'9, 145lbs. I am 38, 5'2, 115lbs. We do not go to the gym or work out, but we walk together and play sports together and lead active lives. I would never disrespect myself or him by allowing myself to get fat. We prefer to eat at home using fresh ingredients, but absolutely have treats every now and then. I have chocolate everyday, I just make sure it fits into my calorie budget. Tracking what I eat takes 5 minutes a day. It is totally worth it. I love that we can go to the beach and I can show off my flat muscular stomach and muscular legs that have zero cellulite, and I know that he is proud to be seen with me. There really is no excuse for obesity.
Anonymous user 2 years
Ya I would like to see if any women would have sex with a fat nasty smelly greasy diabetic that complains to much.
Anonymous user 2 years
We hear about all the health problems that come with obesity, could sexual health be another? The unsightliness of weight is small compared to diabetes, joint damage and the plethora of other ills that come with being fat. If ones spouse is overweight they have a problem that needs to be solved and saying it needs to be accepted is as stupid as accepting any other unhealthy behavior.
Anonymous user 2 years
My long time girlfriend put on 50 pounds since we first met. Sure she is bigger, but as long as she is happy I don't mind. Only thing I worry about is her health and she is well aware of that. I let her bring up conversations about weight loss, and when she does I do my best to make it a thing that we're doing together; not just her.
Anonymous user 2 years
I have to say such crap, my husband couldn't understand that I didn't want sex after 8 hours third stage labour without pain relief. He watched me hold back screens of agony and did nothing. He let his parents abandon me and did nothing. He refused to listen to my sexual needs. He wanted a perfect house and family, whilst I worked full time without my family, as they were half way round the world. He did nothing to help and now 50 he says with his flaccid penis that I am too fat, and his constant comments about fat people, I do try but he only puts down so bullsh*t men man up you are not sexy anymore so why should a woman who is 50 and fat , hormone induced be like a non mother of thirty. Just grow up and support your wife with kind words and love she may not be slim but she puts up with your crap!!!
Anonymous user 2 years
Hey 1 month ago doing all with hubby including chocolate everyday. No mention of kids. It's easy to do t right when you only have to think of you. Maybe this was a conscious decision or not. Becareful of being a sanctimonious bitch. Its easy to judge when you have the time!!!
Anonymous user 2 years
[quote]Hey 1 month ago doing all with hubby including chocolate everyday. No mention of kids. It's easy to do t right when you only have to think of you. Maybe this was a conscious decision or not. Becareful of being a sanctimonious bitch. Its easy to judge when you have the time!!! [/quote] You sound angry and fat. You shouldn't judge other people when you life is falling apart. Bet you have 100s of excuses. Maybe focus on getting healthy instead of trolling the internet. The poster you accused of being a "sanctimonious bitch" and judgemental sounds like she has her sh*t together - you don't. Go fix yourself.
Anonymous user 2 years
What a bunch of shallow pompous asses.
Anonymous user 2 years
What I don't get is that it is acceptable to keep telling someone that they are too thin, but it's taboo to tell someone that is obese that they are too fat!
Anonymous user 2 years
It's fine when women trash talk their men with friends, but God forbid men speak up and tell the truth about a woman's fat behind. Time for men to stop being jellyfish and grow a backbone.
Anonymous user 2 years
Disrespect you??? I may not have gained weight after having my babies, but it is only because of the respect my husband shows to me. Women are going to make family a priority. That's the way we are. I'm lucky that my husband makes enough money that I only have to work part-time. This leaves me time to still exercise even though I volunteer at my kids' schools, cook a healthy meal, keep the house clean, do homework with the kids, and be their taxi. My husband helps when he is home. If I had to work a full time job and he didn't help me, there's no way I'd be able to fit in exercise and still be the mom I want to be. It's also important to note that my hips spread, I've got a belly pooch that won't go away and stretch marks, and my boobs are no longer full and perky. That's what having a child does to your body...even if you don't gain much weight. Also, to address the question of why a man would want to stay married to a woman who gained weight...how about because you love her and your family, who should be your main focus rather than the hot girl across the street.
Anonymous user 2 years
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Anonymous user 2 years
If the bloated warthog spent as much time exercising as she did eating then she wouldn't be so disgusting. And I love the typical fat women responses. Stop comparing her to all these celebrities. What celebrities? Oh, the ones that adorn the pages of womens magazines constantly slating other women for ageing and getting fat?
Anonymous user 2 years
Forgive some men. They clearly had no real motherly figure around them, to instill and educate them with regards to what a women actually goes through, let alone how much more responsibility a women has these days. It would appear many out there were and are raised by single dads with no clue as to what being a woman actually entails. Maybe one day their eyes will be open. I deal with clients all over sa regarding their weight issues, goals and aspirations. Most women have ten fold more dedication then men when they set their mind to it, and believes she can achieve her Weightloss goal, for Herself. And definitely not because of some intrusive and uneducated comment about ones current physical state. So don't feel alone, or lost. Help is available. You just need to make the move and prove those haters wrong.
Anonymous user 2 years
What a nonsense article. If a man were sexually unappealing, and we as women told him so, he would then be expected to get into shape or at improve upon his body. Yet we are allowed to simply ask for acceptance? Hrm...
Anonymous user 2 years
My lazy wife stuffs chocolate down her throat before bed every night...it's disgusting. She used to be hot now she weighs 200 pounds. I get so pissed off when I get home and she's laying in bed watching TV which happens at least 4 days a week. I just want to scream in her ear, "get up off your lazy ass and do something...FUCK"
Anonymous user 2 years
I know I'm wrong for feeling this way but I can't help it - my wife has gained probably 60-70 lbs since we met (she was not thin then but certainly not obese) and I cannot find it in me to find her attractive. I think it's unfair that all of my friends are running around with their wives who look just as good now as they did 10-15 years ago and I'm stuck with this fat ugly swine of a woman. She totally did this to herself and does nothing to help. She has also become very messy and lazy. I feel like there's a bit of a double standard when it comes to 'cheating'. I'm not allowed to flirt around with other women, yet she's allowed to let herself go to waste by sitting on the couch with chips and beer rather than bettering herself for me. The way I look at it she is cheating - she just does it with food and drink instead of another man. Gluttony is a sin too, isn't it?
Anonymous user 2 years
Guys guys! just relax because glasses don't break glasses don't break!
Anonymous user 2 years
This is just man blaming bullshit. Take responsibility for your own fat.
Anonymous user 2 years
My wife has gained a a lot of weight was never a thin girl but she still turns me on like the first time we did it she's got a big set of tits which are very cuddly a hairy pussy which I love she's a smoker which a find sexy
Anonymous user 2 years
Women if you are reading this lose the f**king weight!!! NO men wishes to be in a relationship with a f**king fat slob and someone who is gonna stop taking care of herself after getting in serious relationship. Women can be pigs also but the sad truth is that men find that out only after marring them.
Anonymous user 1 year
I do not care about the feelings of my property. It does as it is told.
Anonymous user 1 year
Its all about the woman, does the wife realise how she is making her husband feel, basically she has the attitude of " well he married me, now he is stuck with me, " so on go the kilos and down goes the sex drive and attraction. But if us men say anything we are the ones who are wrong. I didnt marry a fat unattractive woman and ill be damned if I stay married to one
Anonymous user 1 year
Tired of all this nastiness towards women`s body shape. Just read an article by a woman raised in India, talking if how she was ridiculed for being thin! She speaks of how from very early childhood she was mocked and lectured and criticized for her slimness. But in other countries, it is the other extreme. Thin has become the fashion and women are expected to conform to suit this standard. Women bear children and that is going to effect their figure. We are not things put here solely to excite sexual desire in men.
Anonymous user 1 year
The silly idiot on here who commented that NO men want to be with a fat women, needs to wake up and take a look around. There are men who call themselves "far admirers" or "chubby chaser." Even big women get married or have boyfriends. The comments on here just show how disgusting western men have become. Their views are not reflected worldwide. (African fat farms.)
Anonymous user 1 year
The guys with wives who got "fat" after marriage-maybe your wives realized you're not worth the huge amount of effort it takes for a woman to keep a tight, toned body. If you DO deserve "better" and think you are worth it-bye. And let's be honest, ladies, most of us would just cream your f**king panties if your guys were "successful" as a great provider is sexy AF whether that's PC or not it's true. And guys when you provide that we're much more likely to make your needs a priority. Otherwise all that nagging just may push her into the gym but once she tightens that ass she's going to march it right out the door.
Anonymous user 1 year
Ladies, there's no secret, magical formula. You could do 20 minutes of exercise a day (ALL of you can find time for that! Hell I've been cutting into my sleep time because I have kids!). You ARE being lazy. Do it. Not for anyone but you. Having a tight body as a female (and I guess as a male) is empowering!!! And of course you are not happy if you are fat!!! There's no point in sugar coating it. You'll probably eat that too.
Anonymous user 1 year
You stupid f**king men "wash wahh" my wife's fat shut the f**k up you pathetic shallow ASSHOLES! I've been bigger most my life and my current bf met me at my heaviest and does not give a shit. Why because he's a good person who sees me. Your wife is not just her looks and women don't exist for your boners losers!
Anonymous user 1 year
you women crying on here are ridiculous! Some of you are even dumb enough to say you were big when he met you well you are fat anyway so this isn't fr you it's for men who married women who weren't fat and then turned fat.I am a woman been with my husband for 17 years total sand am about to turn 40.I have not gotten fat I also have no kids (my choice I hate them)and am vegan though (all you ignorant assholes always making fun of vegans jokes on you f**kers enjoy your tub of lard meat and dairy eating wives) Anyway I see many butt hurt women crying they should love you no matter what and that may be true but doesn't mean they want to f**k you no matter what and quit using your asshole kids as an excuse.I read every single story and they all were hilarious and sad but these men are just saying it like it is.If you are eating like tomorrow is the end of the world,not showering,not putting on makeup,cutting off your hair just generally not caring at all about your hygiene and appearance they have a right to be disgusted by you that's the truth.Some posts I read said one wife fractured her wrist just by wiping her fat ass,one keeps her husband up all night farting,one eats and shits all day,several eat fattening things right before bedtime,some right in bed they are not being selfish you are! If you generally have a sickness with hormones that a doctor diagnosed you I feel bad for you but most if not all these women are just disgusting,smelly,gross,obese slobs who don't care because they already got their man just don't be surprised when he strays and or leaves.
Anonymous user 1 year
I broke my back in Afghanistan gained 75 pounds when I was able to walk again I exercised and lost the weight. What do you do when your wife gains 70 and says oh look how skinny I was back then. Buys get fit fast crap by not doing anything? I walked my ass off for three months with tons of pain but the weight hurt more. She lays in bed all day never does any kind of fitness training but yet still complains on how she looks, then yells at me for being honest! She will say god I'm so fat I don't know what to do. As MEN we are natural fixers you say it broken we want to fix it so the challenge was excepted, but, it was a trap what YOU WANT TO HEAR IS oh baby you look good just the way you are. I mean what kind of messed up crap is that? If you do t like the way you look do something about it. If you just want affirmation then just be lazy and have your spouse lie to you.
Anonymous user 1 year
Oh blame the man, f**k this article!
Anonymous user 1 year
My women is a cold hearted argumetive cunt of a women who never apologise for anything and insist that she's always right we have two children now and I never get sex anymore also she has turned into a big fat *** and its imbarrasuing to be seen with her in public...why god why you punish me
Anonymous user 1 year
I simply gave up. After trying walking together, the gym, weights, self denial while she dieted, but nothing worked. I've complained one time but to no avail. However I made a promise and a commitment and I am bound to my word. She is fat, I am not. I weighed 153 when we married in 1999. I now weigh 156. She was 119 in 1999, but now weighs 180+ with no end in sight.
Anonymous user 1 year
hahaha... funny
Anonymous user 1 year
that is why men should marry more than one women instead of cheating or bringing diseases to the family ....
Anonymous user 1 year
But the Man needs to stay in shape? BS
Anonymous user 1 year
I like the fact that my wife turned into a lazy fat pig. I enjoy every curve of her fat body. The way she is eating she will be 400lbs by the end of the year.
Anonymous user 1 year
Hell no! I am not a celeb, i did not have a personal trainer. I simply lost the baby weight immediately after my pregnancy. All thanks to eating heathy during my pregnancy. Also please understand,men, that all women are different. If you wanted a beautiful dlim wife even after giving you children...than you need to see beyond the surface. Pick a woman who is devoted to healthy eating and who keeps herself well...not the kind you pick with pretty eyes, plump lips, big booty, fat filled breast...yes, breasts are made of FAT! And that is what you get FAT! You can have it both ways, you want your wife to stay slim, then sorry no kids. Taje up exercise together,eart healthy. On the 9therhand, you want kids, sure...then you need to accept she will fatten up and once baby is out, shewill have rolls from the stretch of accomodating to your baby you wanted growing inside her. Unless, you put your mobey where your mouth is if you even have a job....bring her to have libo suction añ whatever else .
Anonymous user 1 year
HER: "Why won't you touch me anymore?" HIM: "Because you're fat." HER: "That's not the answer I was hoping to hear, can't you saying something SWEET to make me feel better?" HIM: "What?" "Why on earth would I SUGARCOAT it for you?" "You'd likely just eat that too!"
Anonymous user 1 year
To the men: a) Don't get married b) Don't have children if that is acceptable for you and your partner's life c) If the sexual dissatisfaction over-powers any love, then have the courage to end the relationship if it makes one or both of you unhappy. Easier said than done. Especially if you're a socially-isolated not-so-good-looking 'nice-guy' like me :/ Whatever you say for yourself, your partner WILL get hurt, unfortunately. This is the nature of man.
Anonymous user 1 year
All women let go of themselves once they get married. Its a proven fact, proven over and over and over and over again. Many wont even dress up anymore when going on a date with their husbands. I've even paid for gym memberships personal trainers, fitness programs for her. and she is not motivated at all. She even asked me last night if i was still attracted to her since her weight gain. I said yes of course, but I also said that she didn't really have the perfect body to begin with when we first met, and that i still fell in love with her regardless. Men stay the same always no matter what.
Anonymous user 1 year
Ok. Well, I made one last go at it in hopes my wife would consider my feelings. NPR aired an article about a medical researcher who'd found a correlation between the amount of glucose (or sugar) an animal (in this case a dog) eats and how the animal's brain is fooled into taking in more calories than necessary thus resulting in excess weight and eventually fat. The National Institute of Health is funding a 5-year study in an effort to see if this may also apply to humans or other mammals. When I told my wife about this study she said: "I don't have a problem with sugar because I don't eat that much of it (denial), I am not talking about this anymore." When we married I was 37 years old and weighed 150 pounds. My wife weighed 120. I am now 54 years old and weigh 154 pounds. According to the last user setting on the scale, my wife weighs 189. The scale, by the way, was a purchase from Weight Watchers when she unsuccessfully tried the program again some 5 or so years ago. Can't you just smell the irony?
Anonymous user 1 year
If she knows what her husband would appreciate if the wife is looking after herself then why doesn't she do it? And then blame the husband for being not caring. You can't just throw a pile of bricks on the ground and upset when people say the house is ugly.
Anonymous user 1 year
My wife did a yardwork maybe once a year and constantly I heard complain about the grass. As they get older, they tend to move less and watch more tv shows after shows. If you dare to make any suggestion, you are in big argument.
Anonymous user 1 year
Real Women Make your Dick Hard. Not your Life.
Anonymous user 1 year
For all the women out there who say men are dicks for being upset about their wives weight gain, how many of them would be ok if their man packed on 80 lbs.
Anonymous user 1 year
just because you're pregnant does not mean you can eat whatever you want, yes I have heard there are cravings and such but its called having a little self control. They say their lives are too hectic and cant find time to exercise, ok then start eating healthy and stop chugging all that soda and junk food you fat cows
Anonymous user 1 year
Most women are lazy and equally selfish for not giving a sh*t about the marriage
Anonymous user 1 year
I had a really powerful dream recently. It said we were never supposed to marry, and having a child is a selfish decision with repercussions beyond the "seen" world. Marriage allows you to be "lazy" about your physical form, and personal habits and grooming. It said something about having many partners to continually teach you something. I don't know how. It s hard enough to meet one woman.....but the dream seemed pretty adamant, and somehow - possible. Then it said something babies, about bringing a lifeform/entity/soul which is stationed elsewhere, and trapping them here, under law and the confinements of the human body/flesh. The child is then ruined by an imperfect combination of inherited genes, or "flaws" from the parent(s). The "flaws" may not even be genetic, but actually learned behavior. The child cannot escape these traits deeply implanted, and thus passes them on.... By procreating again, perhaps, eventually. Really powerful dream. Many people in third world countries (Africa, undeveloped China, India) consider it a "status" symbol to have 5+ kids. They live in total poverty, and can barely maintain a roof, or food...but it is tradition to have many children. How is everything so backwards, and why has no one done anything to try and remedy it? I guess if it is not in your "backyard", its not your problem, right? I couldn't even imagine having that many kids. How would you tell one from the other, or REALLY be a friend/parent to that child? The world is grossly overpopulated in comparison to the available housing and work applications. Perhaps if a monthly incentive was offered NOT to have kids (some form of semi-permanent birth control) that would curb this childbirth issue in many areas. I am totally unfit/unqualified at 44 years of age to ever father a child. I know this, I recognize this. I have known it for a long time. Perhaps it is a flaw in me, but I just don't have the stamina to deal with the adolescent teenage years. I don't want to fight with my child during these years, and go through the hatred for parents stage(s), because the law says I must take care of this child until 18+ years old. It is my opinion many kids would be ready for a place of their own, IF a fair system could be developed where the child is taught they can assist in the building of their own home (along with participating in something like, another 10 mandatory assist building others' home). I don't want to subject my kid to a fast food job, or some other crappy, pointless job which has no deep purpose. Honestly, there is nothing left in the job market. It's kind of frightening that there is nowhere to put all these kids in the workforce. The only thing left is Humanitarian work (and birth control) in foreign lands, That's the only worthy, honorable, course of action left. Voice translation in countless languages is possible via smartdevice, so that is no longer an excuse. How do you teach integrity, or inspiration to a child? How do you teach them that working to help others could 'magically' fix many problems in the world, if the force/workers was enough? I have a feeling that along the way, if the actions were not selfishly motivated, we would encounter the thing called "God". Once a course began that was not reversible, this entity would present solutions to many human conditions. I happen to not really believe in the Biblical God, either..... But I cannot even fathom how all this electronic connectivity happened so rapidly without some kind of help (Inspiration or divine guidance) from some form of higher intelligence. It happened too fast, too flawlessly, too organized in network/distribution to be totally human in design. This God, or Higher Intelligence has given us the tools to find a way out of this existence (or into a better one). Seems like it wants to see an combined effort....
Anonymous user 12 months
So, the conclusion is that women are delicate snowflakes that need to be lied to by their husbands because one thing that is important to the husband is an unspeakable, but husbands are expected to be the ones to sacrifice and change for the woman.
Anonymous user 12 months
I am really struggling about this in my relationship. My wife is a stay home mom. Which I am ok with. I am a big fan of the mother child bond. The problem with me is weight gain and laziness go hand in hand. I have read a lot on this subject. Nights and nights. I came to realize that 85% to 90% of women who become wives, got the meaning of love and the meaning of need messed up. Once a woman gets her selfish needs met she turns into this opioninated Jubba the hut that thinks her sh*t doesn't stinks. Though, people that are against the poor saps that want their wives to lose a little weight and participate with the family, shame on you all, WTF. After two years, the excuse of " I had your child" and that is why I am heavy doesn't fly anymore. So all you 85%ers out there do one thing nice in your life and lose the weight. Save your husbands breaking backs. Congrats to the one who married one of the 15%ers, that is like winning the lotto. But, when it comes down to it, we are just animals, and guys just want have a woman to have fun in the sack with. Not feel that they got hit by a truck or something. That's all simple as that.
Anonymous user 11 months
That's why men need a prenup. If a wife decides to chop off her hair, gain a bunch of weight and stops or even mildly avoids orally gratifying her husband, it is time to kick her out on the street. Life is short and men do not have any other purpose for women. This is the truth because the court system takes the value of men for granted so it's time for men to get contracts with whomever there with and if they don't get honored, they need to make sure the women do not get paid
Anonymous user 10 months
Here's the thing. Women don't want to be obese. Neither do their men. So, lose the weight and everyone is happy. Problem solved.
Anonymous user 10 months
A man might go so far as to mention to his fat and repulsive wife that she is no longer attractive to him?! WTF?! No! Let the stars fall from the heaven's before that day arises!
Anonymous user 10 months
Let me be ABSOLUTELY honest with all of you pathetic people. If I ever married, then I would know my woman pretty damn well, particularly in a sexual manner. And, given such, if she ever began to pack on weight, then I would substitute the food she desires to eat with a meat popsicle... So that she would be conditioned towards offering BJs every time she became hungry.
Anonymous user 10 months
For all the women here insulting unhappy husbands, check out this link. There, a wife complains about her fat husband. See if you can find any man in the comments calling her "selfish cunt". Everybody is giving her advice with her problem, do you know why? Because IT IS a problem, the same way that being an overweight wife is. Stop looking at us, the selfish dicks, and do something about it. Something that not only will be good for your marriage but also for your health...
Anonymous user 9 months
What about me? My wife has been fat most of our marriage and because of my Christian faith and the vow "till death do us part" I'm still married. I did have one sexual affair and have had friendships with other women, because my wife doesn't do anything sports related, and there is no sex appeal and very little sex. But now I'm 58 and have made a few million but half would be gone if divorce happened, I haven't divorced because I can't say "I give up on you, and don't love you anymore." But it does seem a mistress would be nice, someone to be pleased with, have fun with, and enjoy sex with. All of that is lacking in the marriage.
Anonymous user 9 months
I have always had a weight problem which I always managed with unhealthy diets and smoking. After 30 years of smoking I quit but he didn't. Now, after 40 years of marriage, I have MS and am obese. My husband weighs less than he did in high school. His stomach is completely flat, but he continues to smoke. I am very aware that he can't stand fat people. Anyway, he hasn't touched me in 10 years. If I touch him he cowers away, fearful that I want sex. I do, but just being snuggled would be a blessing. Oh, and his arritude toward me is awful. Not a day goes by that he doesn't raise his at me, but I am basically bedridden and he is my sole caregiver. I am trying to drink two milkshakes a day and have a meal at night, but he doesn't feed me dinner until 7 or 8 and I am starving by then.
Anonymous user 9 months
Stop with the pro-fat coddling. Simply east less calories than you expend. No one is attracted to fat people, not even other fat people. This is not an emotional issue. Simply put down the fork. Do not cry and get offended, do not lie to yourself and blame others. Accept the dynamics of being a living being, and don't overfeed yourself.
Anonymous user 8 months
In my position I have always taken care of myself but when your wife decides not to that's not fare to you as in the man so this complete woman commented website can kiss our guys ass . All the comments was based on woman that quit giving a sh*t because oh well I had kids well that's what you wanted and yes I wanted kids too. That's not an excuse to quit trying to take care of yourself like men do . So f**k you ignorant woman that think the world evolves around I gave birth ,my husband pays the bills ,helps take care of the house and kids but he should be attracted to me even though I had kids and married and don't give a sh*t about my appearance
Anonymous user 8 months
All the lazy cows need to just f**k right off with their bullsh*t excuses. No guy expects you to look like a bikini model. We just don't want to be with a land whale. It's about choices and a complete lack of f**ks given. Nobody is forcing you to eat nutella sandwiches and frosted flakes before going to bed. Cut all that sh*t out, unglue your fat asses from the sofa to get some exercise. Stick with it for awhile and then we can talk about baby weight, thyroid, or genetics or whatever as a possible reason for blimping out.
Anonymous user 7 months
There is nothing wrong with staying in shape for yourself and your partner. This is just another excuse filled article that blames men for not being "understanding" when the wives decide to just give up on their health. Yet there are thousands of articles in women's magazines from upset women who just aren't attracted to their fat slob husbands anymore. These women are told that they are right to express their feelings about it to their spouse. The double standard is real. Men wake up!
Anonymous user 7 months
Don't say anything to the beached whale know she's too delicate to handle the truth period that's f****** stupid let her get set let her get unhealthy litter die from obesity but please don't hurt your feelings you m************ are stupid. Please quit with the sensitivity stuff we're talking about real relationships real lives real solutions and real health problems. And 99.9% of these situations I guarantee you the wife knows she's become fat unattractive unhealthy and she may be suffering consequences of it. She just might need the confirmation of her husband to kick her into high gear to let her know he wants her to be around for her children and for him for a very long time. Quit being super fat baby baby cry babies
Anonymous user 6 months
It's gotten too hard to want to stay with my fiancee who doesn't give a sht how she looks, slugging down a can of soda every 5 minutes and eating candy & crap to where she now literally looks like SHREK. She won't ride a bike with me or go on walks - just sit her on her fat ass on the couch watching TV & feeding her face. Ad to that she now stinks most of the time I'm guessing from all that junk sht she shovels into her maw. I've gotten to the point where I've given up & I'm quietly boxing my sht up & in a year when she's another 100+ pounds heavier, I'm out the door. Glad to see I'm not the only one whos disgusted by someone who just doesn't care about herself or partner as far as what she looks like. At least TRY for fks sake. Glad we arent already married & have kids. I feel for those of you who are.
Anonymous user 6 months
What a disgustingly sexist article..What about half of the men out there we marry? They start off as loving,well mannered ,attentive lover in the bedroom and then end up as a grunting ,beer swilling unwashed wreck scratching their balls in front of the tv...Is there any wonder so many women now are bisexual or lesbian ?..f**k men they are just sad.
Anonymous user 6 months
May I make a suggestion that all you whining inadequate men f**k each other and then you can cut women out of the equation completely...This article has to be written by an American ? and the comments made by rude ,ill educated bullying yanks...WOW read some of the replies on this article and it's fairly obvious why the world views American people as loud mouthed cretins with no manners...
Anonymous user 5 months
Some of you women are morons. First only since the 20th century have women gotten fat after child birth. The reason is lack of drive after getting married. In the 19th century women were more active, Today's women sit around way to much. They eat to much and his contributes to weight gain. In the 19th century women did not gain weight until the mid 50s. The key is walking and exercising daily if you do not have a job. If you have a job you are less likely to gain weight. Any person male or female should care about how they look. I am 50 years old and I look good my wife can careless how she looks. The fact is women who get fat think it is ok since they cook and have babies.
Anonymous user 5 months
Everytime I see this crap it doesn't mention how easy it is t stay in shape and how selfish the women are for saying except me even if I become an ugly slob because I said. You women deserve what happens you are complete selfish narcissistic human beings. Respect goes both ways. Enjoy your cats or neutered men.
Anonymous user 5 months
My beautiful wife gained over 100lbs before having children. Yes, That does make me an Idiot! Get out while you can!!!!!
Anonymous user 5 months
My husband has considerably lost interest in me after the baby, however I was determined to lose the baby weight ad soon as doctors said it was safe to start working out. Then came with the guilt trips about not spending enough time with the baby, no gym, no working our at home, now I'm stuck being fat. The baby will be 3 years old soon and I have no light at the end of my fat nightmare. :-(
Anonymous user 3 months
I love my wife she is 585lbs and still getting bigger which I love, she is an amazing lady I couldn't be any happier and best of all she is the boss in bed, she rules and I can't help it, I told her I want you to put on more weight bc it is so attractive and she said anything for you honey but I call the shots in bed, love that cellulite all over her and her big thighs, butt and wide hips and big stomach, one day she was having a so much Fun in bed she mentioned honey I will gain weight for you and I was so excited
Anonymous user 10 days
but woman changes weitgh too fast my ex was very thin then suddenly in 2 years she got ugly, and i lost interest in her, i noticed many young woman gets fatand ugly too fast,
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